Sandy, The Diva Cruiser

Traveling With The Fur Kids!

2010-10-04T08:45:00.000-07:00

I admit, my little dogs rule our house. With all of our kids grown and gone, we need someone to mark the cadence of our days and these little miniature dictators are more than happy to keep us in line. I travel a good bit in my role as a travel blogger and my husband travels a good bit on weekends in his role as a tennis line judge and referee. So we plan our comings and goings around keeping the two little princes happy with at least one of us at home at all times. Every so often we get a chance to go and take the pups with us—believe me when I say they understand the word “vacation”.

First we have to get down their suitcase. I could carry their items in a paper sack, but seeing their suitcase in the middle of the floor allows me to get mine down and packed without having to hide it or having them drag items out of it. I have been on several trips only to find underwear, socks, and more that I thought I had packed not there. Later I find the contraband under the bed or couch. I guess they reason if they steal my stuff, I won’t go. Here’s a picture of their suitcase—it’s top of the line—whereas mine is not so nice.

The morning of the trip and everyone is excited! Me, because I don’t want to leave anything behind, the pups because they don’t want to get left behind. I know from experience to go ahead and put on their traveling harnesses—Button our younger dog has taken several unplanned “side trips” slipping out of his collar and running away as a puppy. Once he went shopping in a gorgeous mall in Hilton Head Island, SC. He wiggled out of his collar, followed a lady in the door and I spent a fun hour chasing him around. Well, fun for him anyway.

With the first trip by my husband to the car to load the few things we are taking with us (just a weekend visit to the Outer Banks); my older dog Gizzie trails him out and gets in the car. We kind of expect this as he makes this his routine. When we are packing, he just sits in the car waiting. No matter what, he is going!

We are on our way to one of the two properties in the Outer Banks that allow pets. I think this is a sad situation-as vast as the Outer Banks that only these two properties accept dogs. And maybe I am prejudiced since my dogs are fur children and very small—but really—two properties? Anywho a story for another day perhaps—we check in and the kids are quite excited! Look mom! our own little balcony facing the pool with a gate allowing them to stand outside and join in the fun.

Saturday of our visit dawns clear (finally after four days of constant rain) and the four of us hit the beach. Even though dogs are allowed free rein on the beaches here, I keep mine leashed because of their size. Labs, greyhounds, and darlings of undisclosed breed are out this morning with their people saunter by to the delight of my fur kids. Babies playing in the sand are another thrill for my Button; although it’s always wise to keep an ubervigilant pose with babies. Even the most amiable pup like my Button may get huffy when their nose and ears are pulled!

Later back at the hotel mom (that’s me you know) decides to take a dip in the pool for some water aerobics type exercise. I know some terriers love the water; but mine are not of that persuasion. When the desk clerk stated the dogs were not allowed in the pool I had to laugh—you couldn’t MAKE these babies get in a pool. What they do however is hilarious. As I walk or swim from one side to the other they run from one side to the other. In a bit we are all pooped and ready for a nap.

The weekend continues nicely with the pups spending most of their time at the fence bordering our little first floor veranda yipping and yapping at the new dogs coming into the pool area. One toddler, in the pool with his dad, jumps out comes over; gives the dogs a pet; jumps back in and repeats the process about a gazillion times. I am reading and watching amused—little boys and dogs you can’t beat that combination!

We are home now and the boys are sound asleep on my recliner, exhausted after their big trip. For fun I ask, “did you boys have fun on vacation?” Two sets of ears perk up and two little tails start wagging. I take that as a YES!

Sandy, The Diva Cruiser: Mardi Gras My Way!

2010-08-19T11:20:00.000-07:00

Sandy, The Diva Cruiser: Mardi Gras My Way!

Mardi Gras My Way!

2010-08-19T09:58:00.000-07:00

I admit it, I have always wanted to visit New Orleans during Mardi Gras, I mean it's an awesome city anytime of the year--but Mardi Gras, the ultimate in party! And I am a party girl! Right? Well, honestly, no.

To be perfectly honest, I am somewhat intimidated by the whole thing. I would love, love, love to watch the parades, wear an outrageous costume and mask (I actually want to make my own) and see what's going on firsthand. But to be perfectly honest, I don't want to take my top off in public, I can't stay up for two days straight, I don't want to drink until I get sick or stupid, and it just seems a bit too much for me to really enjoy. Isn't there a way to do Mardi Gras and still maintain my comfort zone? Sure there is.

I have to actually give the credit for the idea to my friend and business associate, Connie George, from Connie George Travel Associates. She has been working with a great group of people who, for a variety of reasons, wanted a more "family friendly" Mardi Gras experience. So we decided to collaborate and open up a family friendly cruise to anyone. And, should you, your family, or your group want to, we can arrange a post cruise stay in New Orleans with information on the family friendly parades and other activities. SHEW! I feel better already!

Our Mardi Gras cruise departs on Sunday, February 27th, 2011 and sails for 8 days and 7 nights of cruising fun on NCL's Norwegian Spirit. We will visit Costa Maya, Mexico; Belize City, Belize; Roatan, Honduras; and Cozumel, Mexico. It also includes two fun sea days to explore all the activities and entertainments on the ship. One of the most fun events will be our alcohol free masked ball only for the members of our group. Alcohol is of course available throughout the ship, but all our family friendly events will be alcohol free. In addition, we will enjoy a group shore trip just for our group in one of our ports of call.

Now is the time to mark your calendars and make your plans. Call me today to make your deposit and reserve your place on this special sailing!

Click here or call me at 252-339-9614 or email me for more information.

Sandy

Bliss in Five Easy Steps!

2010-08-04T10:00:00.000-07:00

I see articles, blogs, and Facebook posts by great coaches and intellects of all sorts describing the process of relaxation and bliss. Most of these are awesome and I encourage you to check them out. But for your consideration let me offer MY five easy steps to bliss and you only have to do it once a month!

#1 Find a suitable pedicure person in your area. By suitable, I mean someone who suits your personality. Who makes you feel fun and relaxed and able to relax and enjoy. Now schedule an appointment for yourself for sometime in August.

#2 Dig out or buy some wonderful polish that makes you happy. Forget what's stylish--express your personality. I wear Opi's "Pompeii Purple" which is actually a a dark shade of rosy pink with shine and glitter. I wear it on my toes and fingers all year long and will until they discontinue it. I got the bottle I have now on sale at Christmas for 1/2 off, which is always a plus.

#3 Look forward to your appointment all month. Smile when you think about it.

#4 Keep your appointment, and totally relax while there. Cut off the cell phone. Take your iPod if you have relaxing music. Breathe, smell, ooze down into that chair and just go to your happy place.

#5 Tip your therapist and make your next month's appointment!

See I told you it was easy. And I always call it inexpensive therapy. Now go find the Yellow Pages and make an appointment!

Peace, Sandy (the princess of pedicures)

Sandy, thedivacruiser, would love to help you find a great gal's getaway. Follow her adventures on Twitter @thedivacruiser and on her website http://www.SandyWheelerTravel.com. Sandy is an independent contractor for Connie George Travel Associates.

Wondering About Water

2010-07-31T10:27:00.000-07:00

Did anyone besides me wonder about the article on water in the August 2010 Woman's Day magazine called "Drink Me"? I have always read and heard that the more water you can drink the better (well within reason of course). And that drinking coffee and soda can be dehydrating. And drinking lots of water DID help with weight loss, contributed to good skin, and was the magic elixir of life. But according to this article, all these facts and long held beliefs are not so true. So what's the deal?

I remember vividly when the hue and cry came about that drinking water from your tap was a horrible thing to do for your health--drink bottled water was the battle cry. Since I had been drinking tap and well water most of my life, I was horrified and rushed to find the bottled water that I would purchase. Dasani was my H2O of choice--it was superior in taste to me--and bottled by the coca Cola Company which also bottled my Diet Coke. Naturally I didn't talk about that too much as DC was dehydrating and not PC anymore.

Then I found out that Dasani (and more) bottled waters were merely tap water from another municipal source with a bit of chemicals thrown for good measure. What about lugging around all those big cases of water? I was furious--my tap water was from a municipal source? Geez!

Now it seems that bottled water is totally bad for you and that the bottles are super bad for the environment. What idiots we were! But we were operating on the best knowledge available, or were we? Now I read an article that counters everything my old copies of women's magazines had to say? I want my money back!

Worst of all, it seems fishy that popular and even dare I say medical advise is attuned so closely to dollars and cents. Almost as if "if we can't make money from water anymore, we will tell the public they don't need to drink so much". ???

And could we be being manipulated about other things? Maybe nasty tasting green tea isn't as good for you as "they" say--could it be that yummy tasting old fashioned black tea is just as healthy? Who knows the truth and what will happen down the pike.

Maybe it's just me--tell me what you think! And go drink some water!

The Bubble Burst

2010-07-17T18:31:00.000-07:00

Recently, I took a great familiarization trip to Chattanooga, TN. I had seen online that a historical steam powered riverboat was docked there and was now a unique hotel experience. Since my sister and BFF was within driving distance, I booked a room and off we went. While on board I met two different women's groups, including a group of ever flamboyant Red Hatters! We had a great time and I have lots of ideas for women's retreats and fun times in the area.

This blog is not about the trip itself, however, but about the flight to and from. I have been flying for 30 years and except for a few minor snags, have never had a real problem. Once I made a mistake that cost me time and money; but other than that--things have gone very smoothly--actually amazingly smoothly. On this one short flight LOTS went wrong--none of it my fault--but I paid the price in stress, wear and tear and time. Both coming and going the first leg of the flight was late causing a mad scramble for my connection. On the return flight, I had to literally run through the airport and tripped over my carry-on bag. I made it with seconds to spare; and found out from my seat mate that the gate had been changed four times. One lady I met while running told me she had been trying to get home to Norfolk since the night before, having experienced two canceled flights causing her and her son to have to stay overnight in a hotel and sleep in their clothes (their bags were lost). Speaking of lost bags, my one and only bag was lost on the trip to Chattanooga AND home. I was horrified at the prospect of spending the four day excursion in the same outfit and shoes sans makeup, toothbrush, and pjs. My bag didn't arrive until almost 5 pm on the day following the return flight. Two late flights, two mad scrambles, and two lost bags--all in one flight!

Throughout the experience I was disturbed, scared, and inconvenienced, and a part of me kept thinking--what if this happened to one of my clients going on a honeymoon, resort, or cruise? No matter how carefully you pack, if you don't have your suitcase, what would that do to your vacation? I noticed on the airlines website, information on what to do if your bag had been missing for 10 days. 10 DAYS? DID that happen? apparently! By the way, the line to file a claim for a lost bag took us over 30 minutes to navigate.

What about my new friend who had to stay overnight because of canceled flights? Who paid for that? What would have happened if she couldn't have found a room, would they sleep in the airport?

And worse of all, what would have happened had I really hurt myself when I tripped over my case? I barely made the flight as it was--what would an injury thrown into the mix have done? What would happen to someone older, a little slower, or worse if someone got hurt in the mad scramble of an airport?

These questions have been rummaging around in my brain the past few days. In between legs of the flight, I tweeted and posted to Facebook about what was going on. Since then, several people have chimed in and shared horror stories about unsafe conditions, delays, waste, and problems, many of which make my story look lame.

I have come to a few conclusions. First, I am thankful I made it as long as I did without major flight problems. Secondly, I am more energized than ever about making sure every client has travel protection. Thirdly, I intend to file a complaint with the powers that be about my experiences. What will happen? I am not really sure. Will it make a difference? I don't know that either. My intent is good, but my story is not unique--it happens hundreds of times a day every day if not every hour. And that may be the worst part of all, that we have come to accept poor service, dangerous situations, industry wide apathy as the norm.

Keep the faith and blessings as you travel,
Sandy

How To Save Money on Drinks On Your Cruise!

2010-06-27T16:09:00.000-07:00

One of the fun things about the first day of a cruise is the “sail away” party on deck. Cute, smiling waiters bring you gorgeous looking “fru fru” drinks in a tall, fun glass. First I guess I need to define fru-fru. You know those slush fruity concoctions with rows of fruit on a straw, cherries on a toothpick and a little umbrella in the glass. They usually have names like “mango-tango pineapple slush” and are everywhere when you arrive at the lido, or pool deck. These drinks are available in virgin, but you will need to ask your waiter—assume the ones already made up on the trays contain alcohol.

Many first time cruisers assume these beauties are complimentary—not so dear readers! Not only that, but they are usually presented in a souvenir glass or mug, which is not free either. I have seen people walk away and leave these glasses on the table, take it with you! I generally have one, including the souvenir glass and take it back to my cabin, rinse it out and take it home. Just one for me, but this is not to say if you want several of them as a set—by all means enjoy! I don’t think people realize the difference until they see their bill at the end of the cruise. Plus I don’t think people realize the difference a bunch of these will make in the amount of luggage they have to lug home. Fortunately, there are plastic souvenir glasses available too, so have at it!

Another thing that might save you money is the “drink of the day”. It’s on sale and is usually another fru-fru concoction. These are pretty cold and refreshing at the end of a shore excursion or a dip in the pool. Personally I am more interested in the “experience” of a new exotic sounding drink than I am by a quantity of alcohol, but again, to each his own.

To recap a few points:

• Fru-fru or other drinks served on board are not complimentary even the first day
• Ask for a plain glass to save a bit
• 15% gratuity is added to drinks

See you on deck at the sail away party; I will be line-dancing!

Sandy

Sting Ray City! A Super Experience

2010-06-23T13:16:00.000-07:00

One adventure not to be missed while visiting the Caribbean is a trip to Sting Ray City. Maybe you are spending a week or two on the island or just enjoying a quick shore excursion while on board a cruise ship, either way, swimming with the rays is a lot of fun. I visited Stingy Ray City in Antigua while on vacation with my husband and once again while on the Enchantment of the Seas tendered outside Grand Cayman

with a group of women. Let me tell you about the trip to Antigua with hubby, we had a blast!

We chose the excursion from a menu provided by the ship which rates excursions by time, activity level, and in this case swimming skill involved. Carnival uses the "little walking man" to rate their excursions, the more little men, the more difficult and the more fit you have to be. The stingray adventure was rated a 2, which was perfect for me. We both swim well, but according to the rating, little swimming would be required. The price of $50 per person was great as well. Snorkle gear and refreshments were provided. We booked from our stateroom through the tv and the cost of the trip was added to our sail card. Voila!

Having never snorkeled before much less touched a stingray, I was pretty excited the next morning as we got ready to board the bus. We had slathered on sunscreen, wore our bathing suites, and of course sunglasses and hats. Our bus was almost full with a mix of young and old, couples, and families with kids. Our ride to our boat took us through "town" and highlights were pointed out by our very funny and very pregnant tour guide. When I asked her when she was due to have her baby, she said 3 days ago. That's a pretty strong work ethic in any country, but I digress from the story!

We arrived at our destination which from the front appeared to be a private home. We were escorted to the back where four open motor boats stood ready. We boarded the boats and were off! Approximately 20-30 minutes later (who wears a watch, it's island time) we arrived at a sandbar with a floating dock which we tied up to. After scrambling out of the boats we were given a few directions by the handlers who would be in the water with us. My husband practically raced in, and I eased in and in no time the water seemed full of black shadows under the water. (See them in the picture above) With a closer look, I could make out the rays--eerie and beautiful at the same time. The water was about 4 feet deep with some areas less--parents with older children seeming to have no problems. The rays would bump you and then wait as if they wanted to be petted. One of the handlers told us this was a retirement home for old rays, but them seemed pretty lively to me. We were given the opportunity to feed the rays and then look through them with a snorkel mask. Since I can be a scaredy cat about new things, my husband held my hand while I tried my first snorkeling. Even though it was in shallow water and in a controlled situation--I felt pretty proud of myself! If you haven't seen the blue of the waters of the Caribbean, you haven't seen blue--the color was amazing!

After an hour or so, we loaded the boats and headed back to shore. Refreshments had been set out with cold "koolaide" punch being handed to all the adults. Honestly it was punch pink, but it carried quite a "punch" of a different sort. I switched to water to be sure I didn't miss the nice dinner awaiting me on board by having a hangover headache.

The trip took about 2-3 hours from start to finish and did not require a lot of heavy activity. The adventure was not appropriate for small children and would not be advisable for persons having problems climbing into or out of the boat or going up or down the small ladder going into the water. For us it was a wonderful trip, an adventure with nature that I can recommend wholeheartedly.

Until we cruise again,

Sandy, the diva cruiser

Sandy, thedivacruiser, is in reality Sandy Wheeler, an independent travel consultant for Connie George Travel Associates. Follow Sandy on her adventures on Twitter @thedivacruiser or on her website www.SandyWheelerTravel.com. Email Sandy for more information on this or any of her other blog posts.

What Carrie Bradshaw Can Teach Women About Sparkle!

2010-06-19T09:40:00.000-07:00

When Carrie kissed Aiden while vacationing in Abu Dhabi, I was SO aggravated with her. Yes, I am talking about Sex and the City 2; I saw it a couple of weeks ago on a perfect girl’s night out— pedicures, dinner out, and the ultimate chick flick-a great time. I was upset because like many of the faithful I had followed the “girls” as they made their way through the perils of dating in New York City. Carrie, in particular, had a tough time finding true love with her guy, John Preston, aka Big; finally marrying him at the end of the first movie, Sex and the City 1.

After nearly two years of almost wedded bliss, a few tiny blips had begun to surface on the radar of the Preston marriage. Just like women everywhere, Carrie and Big had to work on their marriage to keep the “sparkle” going. When John came home from work tired and wanted to skip an important social event to veg on the couch with the remote, Carrie was livid. Girls, I mean who hasn’t felt this way? Whether we live in a sleepy rural community or the city that never sleeps, men and women go through this same song and dance everywhere all the time. Girls how do we keep the SPARKLE between ourselves and our hubbies?

One thing I have found helpful (and I think Carrie, Charlotte, Samantha, and Miranda would definitely approve) is to recommend that women keep their friendships with other women close and up to date. It’s tempting with all that women have to do-mother, homemaker, wife, and a productive member of the workforce—to skip the time and effort it takes to remain friends. I find that when I am involved with my gal pals, be it a simple dinner out together, or a luxury vacation in Abu Dhabi, I am happier, more content, more willing to work on that all important relationship with my spouse. I feel better about myself and that translates into a better feeling toward everyone around me. Time away with other women gives me perspective, and the sharing of laughter, fun, and most of all support is welcome and necessary. And of course there’s the old saying “if mama ain’t happy, then nobody’s happy!”

Have fun and keep the sparkle going girls!

Sandy

Sandy, thedivacruiser, is actually Sandy Wheeler an independent travel advisor for Connie George Travel Associates. Follow her adventures on Twitter @thedivacruisier or on her website www.SandyWheelerTravel.com

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Wild Women Afloat on the Tennessee River

2010-06-13T18:47:00.000-07:00

Every year my sister and I take a long weekend away together and just have fun. It's something we both look forward to greatly: we bond, we laugh, but mostly we just relax. We have had some "complications" in the past couple of years--both my children decided to get married two summers ago and her daughter graduated from high school last year--no expenses there right? But this year we were right on track with our planning, with the Gaylord Resort in Nashville being our choice for this summer. I have never been but always wanted to and looked forward to sharing it with her and then with you, my readers. Unfortunately Mother Nature decided to nix that idea with the Resort as well as significant parts of Nashville experiencing extreme flooding and damage. So I got out my pile of Southern Living Magazines, (otherwise known as the "bible" for Southern travel, gardening, decorating, and entertaining) and lo and behold there was a newish article on my sister's hometown, Chattanooga, TN with several really cool hip and historical things to see and do right there. So our plans have changed--we're going for an adventure on the Tennessee River!

Our first destination is an overnight stay at the Delta Queen. The Delta Queen was the last surviving steam powered paddle boat to carry passengers overnight until just recently when she was docked in Chattanooga. The Delta is so significant, she was inducted into the Marine Hall of Fame. I didn't even know they had such, did you? We can stay in a passenger cabin with private bath and luxurious sounding linens and appointments. I am a sucker for high thread count aren't you? In addition to unique, historical accommodations, we are going to enjoy paddle boat type evening entertainment, just as passengers have enjoyed for decades.

As well as fun times and a great room, a complimentary breakfast is served to guests each morning. A floating bed and breakfast, how about that?

To finish off our Tennessee River adventure, I think we should take a dinner cruise or a daytime sight seeing cruise on the Southern Belle Riverboat that operates up and down the River. A great dinner, scenic views, music, dancing--you don't get much better than this.

I will keep you posted on our trip which takes sail in mid-July. I'm pretty excited as you can tell and will be full of descriptions and pictures when I return. If you are a local, please send me pictures or recommendations of things to visit in the area--I am always on the look out for fun things for the gals!

Until later, Sandy

Sandy, thedivacruiser, is actually Sandy Wheeler, an independent consultant with Connie George Travel Associates. Follow her adventures on Twitter @thedivacruiser or on her website www.SandyWheelerTravel.com.

When I Grow Up I Want to be a Golden Girl!

2010-06-06T17:46:00.000-07:00

I am really going to miss Blanche Devereaux. I’m going to miss Rue McClannahan, too, She was a beautiful woman with a lot of talent. But Blanche, well Blanche was my heroine. A smart, sassy, stylish, sexy woman who loved life, her friends, and yes—she loved the men! As a Southern woman trying to be any or all of these, Blanche was a true Southern belle and one of my favorite TV characters of all times. Not since the likes of red-headed Flo from Mel’s Diner has a Southern woman captivated our ideas of what a strength and beauty in one package should be. Although Blanche never had a catch phrase to rally behind like Flo’s “Eat My Grits”, she had plenty of identifying characteristics that made me like her.

Blanche fought against aging with every fiber of her being. She wanted to be young in body, mind, and spirit and often tried out new sports, activities, and ideas. She knew staying young was an inside job.

Blanche had a signature sense of style in her clothing and accessories. She dressed well to please the latest fellow in her life, but to also please herself. She seemed comfortable in her clothes and confident about her looks.

Blanche loved her gal pals and went to them for advice, comfort, and a sense of family. Sometimes it looked like she might sell them short to please a new guy, but in the end she always came through for her roommates and girlfriends.

Blanche had a career she loved and appreciated. She volunteered to help the less fortunate and benefitted from a full, well rounded life.

Yes, I am going to miss dear Blanche. Fortunately for us, the Golden Girls seem to always be in season on Lifetime TV. Her antics will always be fresh for the next generation of Southern girls looking for a heroine.

Fiddle de dee, Sandy

Sex and the City 2--Samantha Didn't Get Her Due!

2010-06-03T11:04:00.000-07:00

Of the 4 gals on Sex and the City the one that I identify with least is Samantha. She is the one I probably laugh at the most, I wonder what she is going to do next, but with my beliefs, upbringing, and personality, I just don’t see myself in her. One thing I do admire about her is her commitment to her business and ability to rise to the top of her profession, while still “having a life”. The reason for the ill-fated (and expensive) trip to Abu Dhabi was the Arab businessman who had observed her success as a public relations executive and was eager for her input on his upcoming projects. Eager enough to give in to her request that the “girls” go too and to spare no expense to impress her, he treated her as a business force to be reckoned with. I think the movie did the character of Samantha a real disservice and here’s why.

Ms. Samantha Jones, New York City PR maven, would never travel to a country and culture uninformed. This was the start of what could be an extremely lucrative deal; and as much as Samantha loved a good looking man, she also enjoyed money, respect, and power in her chosen profession. No intelligent person traveling to another part of the world for the first time would arrive so blindly unaware of what was required in terms of conduct and behavior. Even in a menopause induced frenzy (been there, felt that) she knew better than to create the kind of dangerous situation she involved herself and her best friends in.

Didn’t she have a travel professional for her business and personal travel? She has the best of everything else money and power can buy, who makes her travel plans? Could I volunteer? Had I been her travel advisor, I would have made sure she knew the rules of behavior, particularly between men and women in public. Knowing Samantha, I would have been very firm with her—she does love her men!

No, the movie didn’t give Samantha credit. For all her free-wheeling ways, she was still super intelligent and uber successful. And yes, I know it’s just a chick flick, never meant to make a statement or be taken too seriously. But, the business woman, 50 something, travel advisor in me couldn’t help but notice. Maybe next time I can play the part of the intelligent, elegant, but fun loving side kick! Show biz here I come!

Happy travels, Sandy

Sandy, the diva cruiser, is actually Sandy Wheeler, outside travel professional for Connie George Travel Associates. Follow her adventures on Twitter @thedivacruiser and on her website www.SandyWheelerTravel.com. Email Sandy for comments, questions, or just to say hello.

The Best Cruise Line for YOU!

2010-05-27T09:56:00.000-07:00

I am often asked the question "which cruise line is BEST?" I always have to laugh, because this is a tough question to answer--I always answer back--define BEST. Best price? itinerary? entertainment? food? accessibility? casinos? what is BEST?

Accessing your cruise needs are similar to writing a good news article. There's the who, what, when, and how of it all. Let's take them one at a time.

WHO is sailing? You and your hubby? You and your family? Family reunion? Gaggle of gal pals? WHO is sailing makes a lot of difference. The who involves your interests, hobbies, and activity levels. Will you be happy swimming with the dolphins, ice skating at sea, or just lounging by the pool? Are you an experienced cruiser or a first timer?

WHAT do you want to, see, visit, and explore? Do you have a special place or climate in mind? On one cruise, I knew without a doubt I wanted to see a particular beach in St. Thomas as a shore excursion. What do you want to do on board? If you have your heart set on a surfing simulator or rock climbing at sea, you are limited to the number of ships you can choose. You need to think about WHAT you want to experience.

WHERE are you willing to go to board your ship? Depending on your location, you may have to drive a long distance or fly to make your cruise happen. If you choose not to travel, you could be limited by where you live. Ships are traditionally stationed in certain ports and stay their until the season changes or larger/smaller ships are brought in.

WHEN do you want to sail? The time of the year, season, or even holiday makes a big difference. Going during spring break season? Expect to see a lot of college students on board. Think it would be cool to spend Thanksgiving on board? Yes, it would, but you can expect to pay more. Remember too, that certain itineraries like Alaska and New England are only available during certain seasons and fill up quickly.

Lastly, after deciding on all of the above--HOW much is your budget? Do you have a realistic idea of what a cruise will cost? With prices averaging $100-300 a night for accommodations, gourmet food, and entertainment galore--cruise prices are great vacation values. How much are you willing and able to spend?

When you talk with me, I will ask you all of these questions. I try to match the client with the best fit of all of the above criteria. By thinking on these questions and making a list of anything else that might be important to you--we can find the perfect fit just for you!

Call me and let's talk about your who, when, where, and how. I will do my best to match you as much as possible with the best cruise line and sailing to fit your needs.

Happy sailing!

Sandy

Sandy, thedivacruiser, is actually Sandy Wheeler, independent contractor for Connie George Travel Associates. Follow her adventures on Twitter @thedivacruiser and on her web site www.SandyWheelerTravel.com. Questions are always welcome click here to contact Sandy.

Photos are #1 Me onboard Celebrity. #2 Clients swimming with the dolphins onboard Royal Caribbean; #3 Line dancing on board Princess; #4 Hubby and I on pink sand beaches onboard NCL; #5 Hubby and I swimming with the stingrays onboard Carnival.

The Airport Shuffle

2010-05-03T08:04:00.000-07:00

I love to line dance--it's super fun and good exercise. The exception maybe what I call the "airport shuffle" --when you ride an escalator to get to another escalator to get to a monorail to get to an elevator and on and on. But such is the reality of modern day airports, it's part of the dance. The bigger the airport, the longer the dance, and like a line dance, it's easy to get out of breath.

Another modern day reality that makes the trip longer is, of course, the security check in, which seems to get more elaborate every time I fly. I laughed out loud when the TSA took my rolledup tube of toothpaste. As a travel advisor, I spend a good bit of time reminding people what to pack. I keep a cosmetic case packed so I can grab and go, but my last trip was to a resort and didn't involve flying. OOPS! note to self! never assume!

But in the few seconds (which stretched out a l---o----n----g time) when I realized my bin of stuff was being pulled aside and I was being called over-- my thought was OH NO, SOMEONE PUT SOMETHING IN MY BAG! I had never let my bag out of my sight, but still eek! I wasn't exactly sure what would happen in this situation but I was pretty sure I wouldn't make my flight, among other things too scary to mention. When she held up my toothpaste and said she would have to keep it, well as I said, I laughed.

So to recap, just a couple of points that might be of interest.

Keep your eyes and hands on your bag at all times. Don't trust anyone you don't know, no matter how innocent they seem. Check out reruns of NCIS or rewatch the Mission Impossible movies for examples. Plus, hey, it's Mark Harmon and Tom Cruise-never time wasted!
The 3 ounce carry on rule applies to liquids AND gels. Toothpaste IS a gel dear readers!
Don't argue with the nice TSA's. They are there for your protection and just doing their jobs!

Happy and safe travels, Sandy

Sandy, the diva crusiser, is actually Sandy Wheeler, and Independent agent of Connie George Travel Associates. Follow her adventures on Twitter @thedivacruiser or on her website http://www.sandywheelertravel.com/. Email questions about this or any of her blogs, she loves to hear from readers.

It's What We DO!

2010-04-26T14:53:00.000-07:00

This weekend my daughter came to visit and while we were hanging out and chatting, she said “Mom, I could turn your living space around and give you more room”. Having no talent in this area, and anxious for more room; I said sure. In fifteen minutes she had my husband and hers pulling out the furniture, end tables, and even the piano. The end result was a better look, a cohesive and cozy look, and much more room. When I exclaimed on the transformation, she cut her eyes at me and smiled “it’s what I do!” She is a professional interior designer so maybe I shouldn’t have been so surprised?

Another thing that surprises me is when intelligent, busy executives try to book their own travel. I’m the first to admit there are plenty of click and pay sites out there that make it easy to do. My question is why? We don’t cut our own hair or change our own oil; everything is very specialized these days. We all do what we are good at and hire out what we aren’t good at. Like my hodge-podge of decorating styles, people blunder their way thru vacation and business travel hoping everything comes out making sense. But again, is this the best way to leverage one’s time?

I think people have two misconceptions that lead them to try to book their own travel. One is the old description of “travel agent” which leads them to believe they are paying the agent on top of the trip cost. So in an effort to save money, they try to do it themselves—often missing out on good deals and information that the modern day travel advisor could help them with. In reality, most travel advisors are paid by the resort, hotel, cruise line, etc. that they book with. This is not always true, so be sure to ask; but largely the advisor’s commission is not paid by the client.

Secondly, I have found clients assume using a travel advisor takes more time. This is just not true; in fact, using an advisor takes less time as they do the searching, evaluating, and compiling of information. You will need to “meet” with your advisor initially in person, by phone, or email and outline what your needs are. She will ask questions such as time frame, budget, likes, dislikes, health issues, and other considerations. I usually narrow down my proposal to the client to 3 choices, often breaking it down from a multitude of sources, giving the best fit for each client. I pride myself in giving personalized and specialized information that will meet the needs of my people with as little intrusion into their time as possible.

Yes, I am a travel advisor—it’s what I DO! Let me help you utilize and manage YOUR time as well as get you the best price and fit for your travel needs!

Happy travels,

Sandy

Sandy, the diva cruiser, is actually Sandy Wheeler, an outside agent for Connie George Travel Associates. Email her for questions about this or any of my blogs and follow her on Twitter @thedivacruiser, or on her website: www.SandyWheelerTravel.com.

Cruise Question SOS-What About Those Sail Cards?

2010-04-11T12:27:00.000-07:00

Question:

Dear Diva Cruiser: What do I need to know as a first time cruiser about those sail cards. I know they act as my cabin key, what else do I need to know? Signed Excited About My Vacation in Georgia.

Answer:

Dear Excited in Georgia: You are so right! The sail card IS your cabin key, but it's very much more--it's your key to the kingdom if you will. Unlike the flimsy paper electronic keys used in many hotels, this card is made of credit card material--and should be treated with the same care as a credit card.

The sail or embarkation card may contain any or all of the following information: your name, ship, date of your cruise, dining time and table, ship's phone number, your lifeboat station, and a folio number. This is your "money system" on board as well as your identification and must be carried at all times whether on board or ashore. In fact, the first thing you will do after leaving the check in station at the port is present your sail card to the staff member at the entrance to the gang plank. Your card will be scanned and you will be officially ready to sail.

Once on board all your purchases and activities will be charged to your sail card. On newer ships, even things such as gambling use the sail card. Personally, I like the sound the nickels and quarters make when hitting the slot, but that's my thing--so back to your question. :)

Your sail card is VITAL when planning to go ashore. You cannot leave OR return to the ship without your card, so please use care. You will need a picture ID to go ashore (driver's license) as well as your sail card. Also once ashore, you sail card does not work as currency unless you are in a port such as Labadee, Haiiti, which is a Royal Caribbean property. You will need to carry a credit card with you for dining and shopping while on shore. This is also one of the few times you could need cash depending on your plans.

I hope this answers your question dear sister in Georgia. Yes, your sail card is your cabin key and a whole lot more! Keep it safe and keep it with you!

Until later, email me if you have questions about this sail card blog or any of my other blogs.

Happy cruising!

Sandy

Sandy, the diva cruiser, is in reality, Sandy Wheeler, Independent Contractor for Connie George Travel Associates. Follow her adventures on Twiter @divacrusier or on her website http://www.sandywheelertravel.com/

Cruising Question SOS-What About My Diet Coke?

2010-03-27T11:41:00.000-07:00

Growing up I never acquired a taste for coffee. Maybe because my parents drank so much of it, maybe because I am just a bit wierd, but for whatever reason, I just can't stand the taste. So needing to get my "jolt" from somewhere, I turned to diet coke. I drink it for breakfast and need a couple to get the neurons firing in the morning. It's like you probably are with your coffee--I don't prefer it--I need it! Funny but two or my three sisters are the same way. You should see us at family gatherings, each packing a 12 pack of diet coke under each arm, trust me I have pictures!

So when clients ask me about the availability of their favorite (and necessary) soda on board their cruise ship vacation, I completely understand. After all, it's not as if you can pop by the 7-11 and stock up in the open sea. So let's address this question and see what's available, what's free, and what's for sale. Here we go:

Coffee, tea, iced tea, water, are free all day
Milk and juice are free during the breakfast hours
Soda is available by the glass at the bars, dining room, pool, and theatre for $2-3 each,
Alcholic drinks are available at any bar, in the dining room, pool, and theatre $5 and up
"Drink of the Day" are daily specials and can be made virgin if requested
Fountain soda cards can be purchased on most cruise lines for $6 per day adults, $4 children (approximate)

The soda fountain card is what I always get--first thing--at the "sail away" party! (I always get a fruity ptooty sail away drink too, but that's another story). Considering I drink at least 3 sodas every morning and a gingerale with my evening routine, it's well worth it. Plus I just like to relax with my diet coke while reading out on the pool deck or having popcorn with the movie out by the pool. So the soda fountain card saves me a good bit of money.

A couple of things to remember! All prices are for example and not a contract. Prices change, usually going up, these are the latest I found today and vary a bit by the particular cruise line. Secondly, drinks whether sodas or alcholol brought to you by waiters are subject to a 15% gratuitiy. Lastly, not all lines may have the soda fountain card, so you will want to check with your travel professional or check the line's web site. Fortunately for me, most do!

Now sit back, kick off your shoes, and enjoy your favorite drink!

Until next time, keep the questions coming! Email me here with your question: sandy@cgta.com

Sandy

Sandy, the divacruiser, is in reality, Sandy Wheeler, an independent contractor with Connie George Travel Associates. Follow her adventures on Twitter @thedivacruiser or on her web site www.SandyWheelerTravel.com. Have a question about cruising or one of our trips? Email Sandy at: sandy@cgta.com.

A Brand New Series--The Great Shrimp and Grits Survey of the South

2010-03-26T12:07:00.000-07:00

As a lifetime Southerner, there are some things I just take pride in. Our beaches, mild winters, friendliness, culture, great cities and small towns; I love it all.

One of the best things is our food--fried chicken, red eyed gravy, church picnic potato salad, barbeque, and green bean casserole are the stuff of Southern culinary legend. A particularly Southern item that is probably misunderstood is the classic dish of shrimp and grits. First, let's dispel one myth. The grits used in shrimp and grits are not your typical grits most of the country thinks of when the name "grits" is mentioned. These grits are especially made for this dish and have an altogether different consistency and taste than anything you may have experienced with products from the grocery store straight out of the microwave.

As a true fan of this uniquely southern treat, I decided to work my way through the south sampling shrimp and grits. I have had shrimp and grits in Savannah and Charleston--the holy grails of southern cuisine and most people assign the origins of shrimp and grits to one of these. I want to find lesser known locations; the small town take on the subject. At the same time I will be reporting on some interesting bed and breakfasts, resorts, and other accomodations that you may not have even know exist. I know it's a tough job, but as always, I am willing to take one for the team--you gals my readers! I appreciate your input, and if you know of a lovely local spot that serves a great shrimp and grits--send me an email. I would love to hear from you! Well, I better go to the gym, all this delicious food--I am going to need it! Until my next installment--happy eating!

Sandy

Sandy, the diva cruiser, is actually Sandy Wheeler, independent contractor for Connie George Travel Associates. She can be reached for comment on this or any other of her blogs at sandy@cgta.com. Follow her adventures on Twitter @divacruiser or www.SandyWheelerTravel.com.

Reading Labels Can Save You Money!

2010-03-22T17:39:00.000-07:00

Label reading has become a passion of mine while trying to eat more healthy food, lose weight, and keep my blood sugar under control. It's amazing the things you can learn about processed foods, they almost all contain too many chemicals, too much salt, and too many carbs. A real reality check--if you haven't started reading labels, I recommend you do it, you will be surprised!

These however, are not the labels this blog is about. Recently, I took a gander at the ingredients list of my cosmetics line. It's a great line and I enjoy using it BUT the ingredients list on my toner said "witch hazel". Witch hazel was the only active ingredient. Everything else was inactive--fragrance, etc. I say again, the only active ingredient was witch hazel! Worse than that, I was paying $39.50 for witch hazel! Good smelling witch hazel; in a pretty bottle; but none the less, plain witch hazel. Geez!

I immediately hit the web and found that witch hazel was an active ingredient in several toners, some costly, some not. I then went to my local Walgreens and looked at the witch hazel selections. The kind I chose was Dickinsons. It cost me $5.95 for a net savings of $33.85 per bottle. As I probably use 3-4 bottles a year--well we are looking in a savings in at least $100 a year! WOW!

Now I am known for being an advocate for women pampering themselves. In fact, I insist on it. But, there's a difference between pampering ourselves with a superior products and spending money for no good reason. Go into your cosmetics storage area right now. Examine the labels and do some research. Throw away any items that are over the expiration date; particularly eye items like mascara and shadows which can harbor germs. See if you, like me, are overpaying on any items.

Need a suggestion for the extra money you can save? How about using that extra as your downpayment for our October, 2010 Chicks at Sea ladies cruise? Visit my web site or email me for more information.

Now go read some labels!

All the best! Sandy

Sandy, the diva cruiser, is actually Sandy Wheeler an independent contractor for Connie George Travel Associates. Follow her adventures on Twitter @thedivacruiser and on her website www.SandyWheelerTravel.com. Email me for more information about our Chicks at Sea ladies cruise.

One Step At a Time OR Plodding is a Good Thing!

2010-03-09T10:17:00.000-08:00

One day last summer a new woman showed up in my pool aerobics class and seemed to be working very hard for a newbie. Being the busy body I am (I like to refer to it as "friendly") I asked about her and we were all told that she was indeed new to the Y, and was scheduled to get married soon and wanted to shape up. Since most brides feel this way, I thought nothing of it until she further replied her wedding was only 2 weeks away! I was floored as were the other members of the class as she mentioned her dress was too tight and she needed to lose 20 pounds in these two weeks to fit into it. And that she intended to take at least 5 classes that DAY! Since she was at least my age, I thought "she's going to kill her fool self" but her enthusiasm was not to be shaken, even though our instructor tried to make her see that fitness and weight loss was achieved slowly over time. I don't think I ever saw her again, but the lesson has stayed with me. Some things don't happen overnight and are best done a bit at the time OR plodding along.

One thing I think fits this same principle well is spending money on travel. Some people enjoy the thrill of finding a last minute trip and plunking down their cash and heading out! That's super and if you are of that mindset, call me, I always have last minute trips and cruises ready to book. But for me and a lot of people, well we may not have a lot to cash to plunk. Or enough leave from our employment, or quick-as-a-flash childcare available. But with the right planning--especially financial planning, almost anyone can take the trip of their dreams.

So to help all those planners and plotters, Connie, (our esteemed leader) came up with the idea of a "payment plan" for our trips and cruises. Two such trips where this would work well are my New Orleans at Christmas escorted bus tour or the Chicks at Sea cruise. Pay $200 down this month and $100 a month (or more you decide) and pay until you are all paid up! With New Orleans coming in at $879 and Chicks at Sea 5 day ladies cruise prices starting at $500, it won't take long to make your trip a reality. Plus to me, part of the fun of a vacation is the anticipation--you will have a few months to savour your trip--all paid for without taking too much out of the budget at one time. I will be happy to work for you on a payment plan that suits your needs. I will be delighted to help you join the ranks of the planners and the plodders--it's a good thing!

Happy travels AND happy budgeting,

Sandy

PS Just IN! We have an absolutely fabulous value on board Holland America Line cruise ships. Book during our Cruise Sale and receive an exclusive Onboard Value Booklet valued at $354. Sail anywhere--these onboard services will enhance your voyage!

PSS Sail on our Chicks at Sea voyage and have dinner every night with Sandy the Diva Cruiser herself. Have your picture taken for free! Chances like this to mingle with celebrities don't come along every day!

Sandy, the divacruiser, is actually Sandy Wheeler, Independent Contractor for Connie George Travel Associates. Follow her adventures on Twitter @thedivacruiser or on her web site: www.SandyWheelerTravel.com

My Trip to the Sanderling, Part II--The Massage!

2010-03-07T09:51:00.000-08:00

Hello again, it's Sandy here with more information about my great visit to the Sanderling Resort and Spa. Be sure to read the first installment which describes the property and our room. Now it's time for my favorite thing--a massage. Since I have been experiencing some shoulder spasms and a really tight neck, I had asked for a "deep tissue" massage, which is a bit more ($10) but in my case well worth it. I had asked for a 50 minute massage and was impressed the massage therapist didn't spend much of my alloted time talking--actually spending 50 minutes working on my pain. But let me back up and take it through the experience.

The Spa is located across the street and has very nice views of the Currituck Sound. The building also houses the indoor heated pool and hot tub, so I knew I would spend a good bit of time there. Upon entering the building, I was greeted by Ashley, the spa manager at the front desk. To the left of the reception desk is built in space for bath and spa products, candels, spa clothing and other gal friendly items to purchase and enjoy. To the right was the manicure, pedicure, and hair salon areas which although seemed busy, were very quiet and serene. The Sanderling has 9 treatment rooms and once inside one you feel as if you are the only one there. I was welcomed and led into the ladies dressing room area where I was given a key for my locker which contained a thirsty robe and sandals for my feet. I appreciated the material of the footware, noticing it could be easily sanitized, which always makes me feel better. I was then shown the "quiet room" with relaxing couches and chairs as well as a glass container of water with cucumber slices floating in it. There was a short form to fill out, and I was really getting into the relaxation mode thumbing through a ladies magazine and sipping this theraputic water.

In approximately 8-10 minutes (watches are left in the locker of course) I met my therapist, Jackie. After asking a few questions, she immediately got to work. She assured me that she would give my neck and shoulder adequate pressure to relieve my problem, but that I was to immediately tell her if the pressure became too much. I use massage therapy routinely to manage stress and fibromyalgia, so I know my stuff when I tell you this was a great massage.

I did not mention the room, so let me back track a bit--it was above standard, well ventilated, and best of all had a view of the Currituck Sound. The Resort has rooms for couples massage and a screened gazebo for water front massage when the weather permits. This I definitely have put on my "bucket list" girls, what a super indulgent way to relax away the stress! They have a complete line of facials and jetted tubs for scented, relaxing soaks. The only thing I could say negative about the experience was the price is a bit high, considering it was the winter season.

After the massage, I reversed the process and went back to the quiet room and enjoyed another glass of water and gave myself a few minutes to just breathe. After checking out at the front desk, I wandered around out back of the spa, checking out the pier, gazebo, and more. It was warm enough for a leisurely stroll and as usual, these unplanned moments were some of the most relaxing of my visit. I finally wandered back to my room for a quick nap and when my husband returned from his tennis outing, (Pine Island Tennis Center) we made way back to the spa to use the pool.

The indoor heated pool was an absolute joy. Glass enclosed, with a gorgeous view, we really enjoyed working out swimming laps and in my case, treading water. After about 30-40 minutes in the pool, we made our way to the indoor spa. What a great way to end a relaxing, but busy day. Everything in the pool area was immaculate, well stocked, and "cozy" I guess is the best word to describe what I felt. I did not see an attendant during our swim and soak, which left me feeling a bit disconcerted. Somehow I thought someone would be near by, allowing for a point of contact should an accident arise or a problem--maybe that's just my own insecurity speaking? Since we live only an hour or so from the Outer Banks, we ate dinner at one of our favorite spots and came back to our room exhausted but refreshed too. A great massage and swim--a wonderful afternoon!

Check back for Part III in my series--having breakfast at the award winning LifeSaving Station Restaurant on property and being given a personal tour by the Sanderling's Exective Chef, Joshua Hollinger.

More to come!

Remember gals, Relax, Refresh, and Realize Your Worth!

Sandy

Sandy, the diva cruiser, is actually Sandy Wheeler, independent agent for Connie George Travel Associates. Follow her adventure on Twitter @thedivacruiser or on her website www.SandyWheelerTravel.com

My Visit to the Sanderling Resort and Spa,Outer Banks, NC ! Part I

2010-03-01T07:47:00.000-08:00

WOW! was my first thought when I entered the "lobby" of the Sanderling on the sunny but cold (40-50) Friday in February. I had driven by the Sanderling for almost ten years on my way to Corolla, putting it on my to do list every time. When a group of gals requested information about a long weekend get away there, I decided to was time to make my way to the Outer Banks for an explore. Now back to the wow!

I was greeted by a two story staircase that led up to a large seating area complete with couches, chairs, bookcases, fireplace, and two different glorious views. The Sanderling property is fourteen acres uniquely situated on both sides of Highway 12 with some of the buildings having views of the Currituck Sound and the others looking out onto the ocean. The registration desk is tucked into the right corner of the lobby so as not to detract from the beautiful symetry of the staircase. After checking in, I immediately hit one of the porch rocking chairs overlooking the sound--short but sweet--as I was reminded by the nip in the wind it was still February. I was disappointed that I was not offered concierge services, although there was a sign that said they were available. As a woman traveling alone (my husband came in that evening), I was in need of help with my bag and laptop case.

But let's move on, I have a massage to get to! The North property is perfect for a girls' getaway weekend, with 2 queen beds in each room, so I chose that room type to get the look and feel for my recommendation. The room was decorated in what I would call "beach chic" with cool and comforting furnishings and linens, and sea shells, lots of sea shells!. The private bathroom was well suited for women too--I was instantly in love with the glass enclosed shower. My hubby has no clue why I was so impressed, but girls you know. The towels where thick and thirsty and there were two great robes in the closet ready for a cozy evening. The vanity and mirror were large enough for two women getting on their makeup and doing hair, but two sinks would have been an even better idea. The certified organic soap, shampoo, and other toiletries were just one more piece of the feel good experience.

The dresser seemed adequate for two ladies clothing and doubled as the TV table. The middle section of the bureau held a small frig and room safe. We need to feel our baubles are going to be safe while we are walking the beach or dancing the night away right? The best thing about the room was the deck or porch depending on the floor you were on, complete with wicker chairs and a built in bench for talking with friends or just communing with the sounds of the beach. The room we had directly faced a gorgeous looking and sounding waterfall. There is no more pleasant sound to me than trickling water--I spent some really quieting and restful time there sipping hot tea and listening to the waterfall. Unfortunately, the North Inn is not handicapped accessible. While the steps have more than adequate handrails and a good spacing between the steps, (I was fine since this was a "good day" with my silent handicap) the steps were there making this girl friendly, less expensive part of the property not accessible by people with problems climbing stairs or wheelers.

We totally enjoyed a small seating area two doors down from our room that shared the gorgeous view of the waterfall, complete with comfortable seating and a fireplace. Hubby and I sat and propped our feet up near the fire and nibbled complimentary gourmet cookies--I can totally see this property as a honeymoon spot too! Besdie this cozy couch was a dining table and chairs--great for a snack or family conference. At one point I did find this area taken over by the maids/waitresses ? for a meal and what appeared to be a break time. Somehow this was a bit disappointing, was there not an adequate space for break or dining for the staff? My husband says I am too picky, maybe so--just reporting my findings, dear readers.

Soon it was time for my massage. See the lengths I go to for you my readers? I'm really taking one for the team here girls. The Sanderling Spa was across the street on the Sound side and I couldn't wait for the pampering to being! That ends this installment; check back soon for the rest of the story.

Gals remember you need to "Relax, Restore, and Realize Your Worth".

And another old adage "If Momma Ain't Happy, Nobody's Happy"

Love you, Sandy

Sandy, the diva cruiser, is in reality Sandy Wheeler, Independent Agent for Connie George Travel Associates. Follow Sandy's adventures on Twitter @thedivacruiser and on her web site www.SandyWheelerTravel.com. Email Sandy for more information about this or any other of my blog entries!

The Gentle Art of Listening

2010-02-22T10:11:00.000-08:00

Although my blog is technically about women’s travel opportunities, I also like from time to time to comment, ask questions, or make observations that might be beneficial to other women. Some of these observations are common sense that we just need to be reminded of from time to time—travel safety tips for example. Other things I share with my readers are about lessons learned or even grey hairs earned. And these are the blogs that seem to generate the most emails and comments, many of them off the record. For example, I was gratified that my blogs about weight issues during the holidays prompted many of you to write and share your struggles with me. So, with this in mind, here goes a little blog about an important issue; learning to listen.

When a friend confides in me, I consider it an honor and a blessing. I think women are a powerful force, more powerful than we imagine. The sharing of a confidence or concern is something that women do for other women that is so different from sharing with a man; no matter how loving or well intentioned. As I age, I am learning that the art of true listening is a skill I am developing after having done it the wrong way. It’s taking time, and I still don’t have all the answers, but here goes a few things I have learned.

I have always wanted to be supportive of people. But until recently if you tried to share a problem with me, I would listen attentively for a few moments, get the big picture of things and then jump right in—talking, talking, talking. I would immediately offer well intended advice and a plan for correcting the situation if MY ideas and action plan are followed. And often I would blow it with the friend trying to express herself. I want to “fix” things, it’s what I do, but not very helpful at all in a listening situation. Maybe it was my ego, I like to believe not—but everyone loves to hear the sound of their own voice, hey? I really did want to help and I certainly didn’t want to come across as bossy. So what IS good listening?

Most people just want your undivided attention when sharing with you. Making eye contact, a hug if appropriate, and active listening—really getting involved with what they are telling you. No recriminations or judgment during this time either. My favorite saying when a friend begins to chastise herself for a mistake is: “stop talking about my friend that way”. Just that bit of humor dispels the idea that you might be judging. I make soothing noises like “aw”, but I think the main point is stay engaged, continue with eye contact and provide a safe haven for your friend. A safe haven is a priceless gift you can give and by learning the art of gentle listening you will have made a difference to someone in a huge way. And chances are when your time comes to need counsel, she will be there for you too. Listening is a skill that we may not have been born with, but it can be developed over time. Good luck with your journey!

Have fun and be sure to visit our webpage. We have a great new New Orleans escorted tour ready to book! Email me at sandy@cgta.com to talk about this blog or to ask questions about our upcoming trips!

Sandy, the Diva Cruiser, is actually Sandy Wheeler,Indpendent contractor with Connie George Travel Associates. Follow her adventures on Twitter @thedivacruiser or through her website http://www.sandywheelertravel.com/

The Truth Comes Out!

2010-02-02T10:39:00.000-08:00

Ok, here it is. I hate snow, I do, I know that now after our 20 year record accumulation last weekend. Those of you who know me personally or from my posts--please don't be too disappointed in me. But it's the truth. I don't want to play in it, I don't want to ski, and goodness knows I don't want to go where there's a lot of it.

Now before my friends in the western part of North Carolina start with the hate mail, I love the mountains! Spring, summer, and fall. Maggie Valley is a picture postcard, Lake Lure is surely heaven on earth, and Asheville is one of those places that should be on everyone's must see list. Quaint quilt shops, fresh fruit stands playing mandalin music stand toe to toe with some of the most eclectic and hip spas and restaurants anywhere. The Blue Ridge Parkway delivers on some of the most beautiful scenery on the planet. And of course, it's impossible to mention Asheville and western North Carolina without the Biltmore Estate. Beyond the mansion itself there are the gardens, vineyard, dairy, equestrian center, River Bend Farm, estate shopping, and more. I have been there in spring, summer, and fall and every season it's a new world to discover.

My next land trip will be to visit the Biltmore Estate and gardens during the Spring tulip and dogwood season--sometime between Apri 1-May 15th. Biltmore gardens We are making plans for a group of ladies (hubbies welcome) to enjoy the experience together. I don't have everything firmed up yet, your input and questions are welcome. More details will follow, be sure to follow my blog for more.

So, in summary, yes, I do hate snow; but it's not too bad--I still like hot chocolate!

Happy travels and stay warm!

Sandy

Sandy, the diva cruiser, is in reality Sandy Wheeler, an independent representative of Connie George Travel Associates. Follow her adventures on Twitter: ladiestravel or email for more informaton about this or any other of her blogs.

Flashy Red Polish

2009-12-29T17:56:00.000-08:00

Don't run off, this will be a very short installment of my blog. I do have a few questions. Ok, here goes!

why is my Santa hat the warmest one in my closet?
why does the bright red OPI "Christmas Cheer" fingernail polish which looked so sleek and festive last week look so lame now?
why do the Christmas lights ALWAYS come off the tree all tangled no matter how hard you try?
why is it I always find the 75% off bows and wrapping paper I bought last year when I am putting the current year's stuff away?

If you have answers to these and any other of the great mysteries of life, drop me a line. In the meantime, please let me know if I can help you with any of your travel needs in 2010. It has been my pleasure to work with some awesome clients in 2009, I thank you for your business and your friendship. So, ponder these questions and remember whether it's a great gal's getaway, a fantasy honeymoon, or a special Valentine's treat for you and your sweetheart--I am your girl!

Blessings for the new year!

Sandy

Sandy, the divacruiser, is in reality, Sandy Wheeler, an independent contractor for Connie George Travel Associates. Follow her adventures on Twitter @thedivacruiser or her website http://www.sandywheelertravel.com/. Email Sandy @Email for Sandy

Things Your Burglar Doesn't Want You to Know!

2009-12-22T10:26:00.000-08:00

Whether you travel near or far to visit friends and family; by car, train, plane, bus or boat, there's always an aspect that I like to remind my travel clients about--safety. I, like most travel professionals, am a big supporter of Travel Insurance for my people to protect them in a variety of ways. But one issue I don't talk about enough and plan to add to my web site for 2010 is safety for the home while traveling. No one wants to return from a quick trip to grandma's or a 2 week exotic cruise to find their home broken into or vandalized. The following list is not mine, but it has made the rounds of my email at least twice, so I am putting it out there for you to think about and heed. An ounce of prevention, preparation and planning could really be worth a pound of cure.

THINGS YOUR BURGLAR WON'T TELL YOU:

1. Of course I look familiar. I was here just last week cleaning your carpets, painting your shutters, or delivering your new refrigerator.

2. Hey, thanks for letting me use the bathroom when I was working in your yard last week. While I was in there, I unlatched the back window to make my return a little easier.

3. Love those flowers. That tells me you have taste ... And taste means there are nice things inside. Those yard toys your kids leave out always make me wonder what type of gaming system they have.

4. Yes, I really do look for newspapers piled up on the driveway. And I might leave a pizza flyer in your front door to see how long it takes you to remove it.

5. If it snows while you're out of town, get a neighbor to create car and foot tracks into the house. Virgin drifts in the driveway are a dead giveaway.

6. If decorative glass is part of your front entrance, don't let your alarm company install the control pad where I can see if it's set. That makes it too easy.

7. A good security company alarms the window over the sink. And the windows on the second floor, which often access the master bedroom-and your jewelry. It's not a bad idea to put motion detectors up there too.

8. It's raining, you're fumbling with your umbrella, and you forget to lock your door-understandable. But understand this: I don't take a day off because of bad weather.

9. I always knock first. If you answer, I'll ask for directions somewhere or offer to clean your gutters. (Don't take me up on it.)

10. Do you really think I won't look in your sock drawer? I always check dresser drawers, the bedside table, and the medicine cabinet.

11. Here's a helpful hint: I almost never go into kids' rooms.

12. You're right: I won't have enough time to break into that safe where you keep your valuables. But if it's not bolted down, I'll take it with me.

13. A loud TV or radio can be a better deterrent than the best alarm system. If you're reluctant to leave your TV on while you're out of town, you can buy a $35 device that works on a timer and simulates the flickering glow of a real television. (Find it at faketv.com..)

8 MORE THINGS A BURGLAR WON'T TELL YOU:
1. Sometimes, I carry a clipboard. Sometimes, I dress like a lawn guy and carry a rake. I do my best to never, ever look like a crook.

2. The two things I hate most: loud dogs and nosy neighbors.

3. I'll break a window to get in, even if it makes a little noise. If your neighbor hears one loud sound, he'll stop what he's doing and wait to hear it again. If he doesn't hear it again, he'll just go back to what he was doing. It's human nature.

4. I'm not complaining, but why would you pay all that money for a fancy alarm system and leave your house without setting it?

5. I love looking in your windows. I'm looking for signs that you're home, and for flat screen TVs or gaming systems I'd like. I'll drive or walk through your neighborhood at night, before you close the blinds, just to pick my targets.

6. Avoid announcing your vacation on your Facebook page. It's easier than you think to look up your address.

7. To you, leaving that window open just a crack during the day is a way to let in a little fresh air. To me, it's an invitation.

8.. If you don't answer when I knock, I try the door. Occasionally, I hit the jackpot and walk right in.

Sources: Convicted burglars in North Carolina , Oregon , California , and Kentucky ; security consultant Chris McGoey, who runs crimedoctor.com; and Richard T. Wright, a criminology professor at the University of Missouri-St. Louis, who interviewed 105 burglars for his book Burglars on the Job.

Happy and SAFE traveling!

Sandy

Sandy, the diva cruiser, is actually Sandy Wheeler, an independent contractor with Connie George Travel Associates. Follow her adventures on her website at http://www.sandywheelertravel.com/ or on Twitter @thedivacruiser.

A Christmas Carb Carole-Traveling Through the Past, Present and Future

2009-12-18T07:04:00.000-08:00

Whether you like the story of Scrooge and his journeys with the ghosts of Christmas past, present, and future in the newest 3-D version, or you prefer the black and white presentation or something in between; everyone is familier with the tale. The old crumengeon goes on a journey of exploration and an emotional roller coaster ride in one night that will leave him changed forever in the process.

While not so dramatic, I have been on a similar journey of exploration the past few months about an issue that has long been part of my life and so intertwined with memories of Christmas that I always approach the holidays with a tiny bit of dread. The issue is weight--getting it off, keeping it off, what to eat, when to eat, how to keep from eating--and the holiday scene only intensifies things. I can't honestly remember a Christmas or any other situation where I felt "thin" enough. I look back at pictures of myself and think: "gee, you looked cute in that outfit", or "boy you were thin then". At the time, well, as I said, I have never felt thin enough. Emotions aside, here are the facts, a good place to start. And after years of fighting and fretting, I have come to terms with these facts.

I am almost 6 feet tall. Most of my family is tall. While is was a pain in the 4th grade, it's a joy now. But being 6 feet tall, I can forget about weighting 103 lbs. It's not going to happen.

I am on the flirty side of 50. I don't want to wear a bikini anymore. I don't want all the maintenance that goes into wearing skimpy clothes. I am perfectly content to look decent in a one piece--as long as small children don't point and stare and old folks don't clutch their hearts and cry out in horror, well, I am cool.

I have been taking Prednisone for 25 years to control a serious illness. And luckily, it does control it and I have been blessed with 25 years of a marvelous life I might not have had without this drug. Unforunately, it is directly linked to weight gain, fluid retention, increase in appetite--well enough said--you get the drift.

So, how to bring the facts of the situation and the fantasy in my head together into a manageable plan for the holidays? Here's my plan, feel free to copy it if you like.

Since carbs are a problem for me, I will look over the options, select my favorite, have a comfortable, reasonable amount and savor it without any guilt or remorse
I will take small bites and put my fork down between bites
I will chew, chew, chew before swallowing
I will talk between bites of food--engage my family in conversation
I will slow down the eating process so much that I am still on my first plate when seconds are being consumed
I will thorougly enjoy and savor each meal
I will remind myself repeatedly that food, while certainly a pleasure is FUEL, nothing more

And most of all, I will remind myself I am thin enough. I need to lose a few pounds to help with my blood sugar issues and blood pressure issues--BUT right now in this minute at the weight I am right now--I am thin enough!

God bless you to have the best Christmas of all!

Sandy

the divacruiser is actually Sandy Wheeler, an indepenent contractor for Connie George Travel Associates. Follow her adventures on her web site www.SandyWheelerTravel.com and on Twitter @thedivacruiser

Giving Ourselves a Break--Traveling By Car

2009-12-14T11:05:00.000-08:00

I remember fondly packing the car with a goodie bag when my kids were toddlers and we would take car trips, particularly during the Thanksgiving and Christmas seasons. The goodie bag was a curious assortment of toys, clothes, snacks, books, tapes, and anything else I could think of to keep them happy, healthy, and entertained during the trip. I was reminded of this as I made my list of things to take along to keep my fuzzy four-legged babies happy, healthy, and entertained as well during our car trip to "Granny's". Although the items in the goodie bag are certainly different than those needed for my toddlers way back when, the idea is the same. Make them more comfortable and feeling special.

I started thinking more about this and then my thoughts zeroed in on a recent trip I took by car during the Thanksgiving rush. And I asked myself "where was my goodie bag"? If memory serves me, I drove relentlessly as if a human life depended on my arriving by a certain time. I wove in and out of I-95 traffic pedal to the medal with no stretch break, no lunch break (unless you count a fast food drive through) and no preparations to make my trip easier or less stressful. Had I had my toddlers in the car, or even my pups, I would have stopped, walked around, and given them a chance to settle and get the kinks out. I would have fed them healthy snacks from the goodie bag instead of the diet coke and crackers I allowed myself at my hasty bathroom break.

What's wrong with this picture? Why is it OK to stop for 10 minutes and play chase with the kids or even the dogs, but not OK to take 10 minutes to stretch my weary bones? I like to think that as gal's travel coordinator, I know how to help women have relax and have fun. I am producing a series for women called "Relax, Refresh, and Realize Your Worth" for heaven's sake! I should have treated myself better. And I want you to learn from my experience. There may be times when you have to be in rush--but most of the time I think women are just conditioned to not take care of themselves. It's a habit and habits can be changed. So your next car trip--think ahead, take breaks, eat well, and pack a goodie bag for you too!

A Visit to the Village at Pinehurst

2009-11-16T09:36:00.001-08:00

A couple of weekends ago, I had the priviledge of hanging out with some of my favorite people--my sister Peg and her zany husband Eddie, my mom, and of course my hubby doing some shopping, sightseeing, and just enjoying the laid back atmosphere of the "Village" at Pinehurst, NC. As anyone who has ever raised a golf club knows, Pinehurst is one of the golf meccas of the South and is also quite well known for it's tennis events, training camps, and tournaments.

It was a glorius day weatherwise and we were able to explore the shopping, dining, and other options in our shirt sleeves. One of the brochures I picked up while strolling mentioned that the Village personified quaint New England charm--but with the abundance of pine and magnolia trees scattered about, this Southern girl may have to differ on that point.

Since it was lunch time, finding a place to eat was first on our agenda. My brother in law had heard good things about Dugan's Pub while playing golf the day before, but on investigation found it pretty crowded and reported back and our hungry little horde decided to keep looking. The next spot we found was Theo's Taverna, reported by the signage to be an authentic Mediterrean/Greek restaurant. Since Greek cuisine is not my favorite thing, Eddie asked for a menu and brought it out so we could all see it. Directly beside Theo's was another establishment, The Darling House Pub and Grill that looked good and I wanted to compare the menu offerings. The Darling House stated they were a Celtic experience and they had a charming outside eating area that looked inviting on such a pleasant day. No sooner had we gathered around the two menus to see what was available than the owner/manager of Theo's came out into the doorway and started to chastise us for taking his menu. He didn't smile and make a joke of it, he growled, frowned, and rolled his eyes at us. After returning the menu (no gold gilt or buried treasure map-- just a laminated piece of cardboard--not even in multi-color), we of course ate at the Darling House. I had the special--a huge, tasty 1/2 of a chicken sandwich with a salad that my mom described as "cheerful". The service was excellent, the food was good--a perfect luncheon treat.

Our stroll then took us to several shops with interesting and unique merchandise. I particularly liked Cameron & Co, Le Faux Chateau, and a little jewelry, purse and accessories shop called Teramsu where I received excellent, personal service like we received years ago in any retail establishment. The items were cute, funky, and not too pricey. I purchased a watch that I really love with a flip over band for less than $50.

Probably the worst part of the day was that the visit was so short. We have already made plans to come back and visit in January. Check back then when I review the fabulous Pinehurst Resort--just looking at the huge spa facility makes me smile; and well, yes, the golf course looks pretty good too!

Sandy, the diva cruiser, is in reality, Sandy Wheeler. Follow her adventures on Twitter @thedivacruiser and on her web site http://www.sandywheelertravel.com/. Sandy is an Independent Agent for Connie George Travel Assocites. Email me for help in planning your next trip!

The World is Shrinking, So Why Won't My Waist?

2009-10-23T08:04:00.000-07:00

I just finished reading Rhys Bowen's latest book called Royal Flush. The herionine, Georgie, is a relative of the "royals" and is at the castle when the Royal Grouse Hunt is being held. As an aside to the event, a group of the locals volunteer to take a group of haughty American visitors on a "haggis hunt". Since haggis is a Scottish sausage concotion and not an animal to be hunted--well you get the point.

Reading this reminded me of an old Southern tradtion called the "snipe hunt". Good ole boy locals would take visitors out at night hunting for snipes with some interesting results. And if by chance the visitors were haughty; then they were taken to an especially thick part of the woods and left till morning. Strangely enough, no one has ever bagged a snipe in the woods. (They are actually shore birds.) Go figure.

The world is different now. Myths like the snipe hunt are easily debunked by just
Googling the words "snipe hunt". There's even a Wikipedia entry for it. Easy access to information about other cultures, peoples, and places to visit are at our fingertips. New and exciting venues have recently developed into the "it" spots to visit. Costa Rica has become one such place, and the requests for Costa Rican womens' adventures have been coming in.

So, tada! We are offering a ladies only trip for November 2010. A 9 day, 8 night adventure in Costa Rica including the following sites and activities: a visit to the Poás Volcano, a cooking class, yoga on the beach, a painting lesson with the local artists community, a boat ride on Lake Gold, the Museum and National Theater in San José, Monteverde Cloud Forest and Orchid Garden, Tortuga Island Excursion & Snorkeling, and much more. Plenty of exercise, activities, and unique opportunities to see culture, art, peoples, and places that give you a profound experience of development as a woman. All in the company of exceptional women just like yourself! Here's the link to this great trip http://www.sandywheelertravel.com/id14.html.

Yes, our world may be shrinking, but you don't have to shrink with it. Decide instead to grow and join us on this super adventure!

And remember, don't go hunting after dark!

Sandy, the diva cruiser, is actually Sandy Wheeler, Independent Travel Consultant for Connie George Travel Associates. Follow her adventures on Twitter @thedivacruiser.

Email Sandy to ask questions about any of our great trips and check out www.SandyWheelerTravel.com for more information about our escorted tour to Costa Rica!.

Looking for a Few Good Men..and Women!

2009-10-16T08:19:00.000-07:00

I get absolutely thrilled when I can announce that I was able to make a good thing better! It's awesome and I couldn't wait to share. . . so here goes!

As you may have heard, we have a great themed cruise sailing April 11, 2010; a Marines' cruise for active, retired, and spouses and friends of Marines. It's a 7 day sailing on board Royal Caribbean's Freedom of the Seas with ports of call in CocoCay, Bahamas, St. Thomas, and St. Marteen. Three great sea days are perfect for mingling with friends and fellow Marines and their families. We have group space set aside especially for our group in the categories of Inside, Promenade, Ocean view, and Balcony cabins.

Now for the news! They say good things come in threes, so watch out!

#1)For a limited time we are offering $200 per cabin shipboard credit on new bookings. $200 worth of specialty dining, drinks, shopping, gambling--your choice! A great addition to an already awesome cruise experience.

#2) Since "Toys for Tots" is a project near and dear to the hearts of many Marines and their families, we can now $500 Toys 'R Us gift card to Toys for Tots to any marine league, organiation, or individual for every 5 cabins brought into the group.

#3) There is no limit to the number of gift cards you or your group can earn! What a wonderful Christmas memory this will make.

You see why I am excited? I love giving goodies to my clients!

Now, get your friends and fellow Marines together and let's make this happen.

Call me 252-339-9614 for more info or to book.

*Toys for Tots gift cards will be available after the cruise.

Sandy, the diva cruiser, is in reality Sandy Wheeler from SandyWheelerTravel.com. She is an independent agent of Connie George Travel Associates and looks forward to hearing from you. Email her for more information. Follow her adventures on Twitter @thedivacruiser

Chicks at Sea 2010

2009-09-21T10:02:00.000-07:00

Chicks at Sea

It’s one of my favorite times of the year, when I start booking our annual Chicks at Sea Girl’s Getaway Cruise, and this year is no different. I get jazzed up when I remember the fun and deep relaxation I get when on a cruise and the idea of sharing that with other women—well I get excited—I really do. I love, love, love the idea that I am a tiny part of giving women something positive to help them restore, relax, and rejuvenate. Having been a working mom while raising two kids; I know how hectic and tiring it all can become. My mentor and friend told me to be successful one must find their “bliss” and I think I have. Helping women feel better about themselves, to become nourished and renewed so they can go back to their family, friends, and career ready to take on the world.

This year’s Chicks at Sea is a five day cruise departing from Tampa, FL on February 20th, 2010. We will be making port stops at Key West (can you say fun) and Cozumel, Mexico. We also have 2 sea days for visiting the spa, taking in the entertainment, making new friends, and enjoying the many other activities of the ship. Or maybe just lounging by the pool doing something special—absolutely nothing! How long since you did nothing?

We have a range of rooms reserved for our group ranging in price from $574 to $924 per person based on double occupancy. Your price includes everything including your prepaid gratuities. Also included is a swag bag with spa goodies, a pretty journal, and other goodies just for the gals. We do recommend you add Travel Insurance. Deposits of $100 per person or $200 per cabin are due November 19th. Final payment date is December 12th, 09. Find a roommate and get your deposit in. I feel pretty good about saying you will so glad you did.

Chicks at Sea is near and dear to my heart and I so look forward to talking to you more about this special gals getaway. Feel free to visit my web site: www.SandyWheelerTravel.com fore more information or just give me a call 252-339-9614. You can also email me for more information.

Love and peace, Sandy

Sandy Wheeler, the diva cruiser, is actually Sandy Wheeler an Independent Contractor for Connie George Travel Associates. Follow her adventures at www.SandyWheelerTravel.com or on Twitter @thedivacruiser

Gold Stars For My Girls!

2009-09-19T08:00:00.000-07:00

I ran across some little gold stars in the back of my desk drawer the other day and had to laugh. I’ve used them for a number of “teacher” type activities through the years, but the laugh came from a memory, way back in the day when my daughter was in Sunday School. The girls received gold stars for memorizing verses and the competition was hot and heavy for these special tokens. While listening to one little girl recite her verses I had to stop and ask her to repeat. I tried hard not to roll with laughter when I realized she was using the words “barn dance” instead of the word “abundance”. Since her whole family was into square dancing, I can see how the error occurred. I still laugh when I hear the word abundance. Actually though, it’s a pretty good word, don’t you think?

Abundance brings to mind having enough money to have a comfortable existence. Enough of the green stuff to pay all the bills, save some, and enjoy some. But that’s certainly not all that we aspire to, and I speak here for and to baby boomer aged women in particular. It also means good health for ourselves and our grown children, love and romance, meaningful friendships, a chance to make a difference and give back. A sense of accomplishment, a career we love, hobbies that ease our stress and open our minds and a little more time and fewer responsibilities in which to enjoy the mix. It’s time to start treating ourselves to a few special things we may not have had money or even time to do before. Things like a cruise or trip with gal pals, an afternoon in the hammock with the latest in chick lit, gym membership, or getting ourselves those flowers we admired so much in the florist window. It’s our time and it’s very much OK to treat ourselves well.

It bothers me when I see women still trapped in the role of victim or feeling as if they have to put themselves last every time. A well nourished, relaxed, and happy woman makes a better mother, wife, worker, and citizen. The abundant life is for everyone, even you girlfriend. And heck, who knows, a barn dance might be fun too!

Sandy Wheeler, the diva cruiser, is in reality an Independent Contractor for Connie George Travel Associates who sponsors the Chicks At Sea cruises especially for women. Follow Sandy's adventures at www.SandyWheelerTravel.com and on Twitter @thedivacruiser.

Facebook Fun and Games

2009-09-11T15:17:00.001-07:00

I admit it, I absolutely love Facebook! I check it every morning just after I check my business and personal email. I update it most every morning, sometimes several times a day. I check it before I go to sleep at night--I confess I love Facebook! To my friends and family, this comes as no surprise, to those of you who don't know me--well don't judge until you try.

Why do I love FB? Several reasons divided into two different categories. First personal reasons. Did you know I hardly ever miss a friend or family member's birthday now? And, I have reconnected with a friend I started elementary school with. In fact, more than one. Several people I went to high school with, people I knew from 25 years ago; it's amazing how many people I am finding. I found a lost cousin, people I love that I used to work with, and about a hundred kids I taught while they were in high school who are now raising kids of their own. I see what my own kids are doing even when they don't take the time to call their mom, and can take pride in my nieces and nephews as they enter their high school years. It's wonderful--I LOVE Facebook.

The second reason I love it is for business. I use it to introduce cruise specials, connect with clients and post my blogs, tweets, and pictures. I met my business coach and have received help, advice, and a chance to mentor from several like minded industry leaders and new friends. I have found suppliers and resources as well as inspiration from other small business owners working their way through the joys and problems of business ownership. I LOVE Facebook.

Some people maintain you really need to have two separate accounts, and they may be right. I tried it and didn't like doing it that way. I wound up mixing the two parts of my life by accident or lack of time anyway; plus I feel a person is the sum of their parts, so there you go.

However, I have a little advice that I would like to pass along.

If you are like me and use FB as a personal and professional tool, be careful that you keep a decent balance. Too much info either way may be aggravating.
Don't use your FB as a political, moral, or economic platform. Think before you expect other adults to change their minds about any of the before mentioned, no matter how eloquent your debate.
Be careful the information you list in your updates. I freely give my business phone, but almost never give out my home phone or home address.
Remember your Facebook page may be indexed by Yahoo and Google. Often my FB page will come up higher than my actual web page. And while most of the info is protected, any entry level hacker can figure out a way around the safeguards, so again discretion is advised.

Just some friendly advice, some unfortunately I learned the hard way. I am certainly no expert, but then that's another one of the beauties of Facebook--anyone can learn to use it and enjoy the product for personal and professional benefit. Just another reason I LOVE Facebook!

Keep on posting,

Sandy

Sandy, the diva cruiser, is in reality Sandy Wheeler, an Independent Contractor for Connie George Travel Associates. Follow her adventures on www.SandyWheelerTravel.com and on Twitter @thedivacruiser

The Fruit Bowl Blog Post

2009-08-13T10:50:00.000-07:00

I get aggravated when I see cruise ads for outrageous prices like "5 Day Cruise for $200". I have to ask 'cruise where and on what?' seeing in my mind a johnboat floating down a river with the theme from Deliverance playing menacingly in the background. What gets me even more aggravated is when my hardworking clients call me thinking they have found the deal of the century and want to book a well deserved vacation for their family at these prices. Sadly I have to inform my clients this price they found does not include the total cost of their vacation. They are not making a comparison "apples to apples" as my partner Connie loves to say. You can't compare apples to pears and have an adequate understanding of the value of your vacation. Cruise prices should include your base fare + your port fees + taxes+ any other items you wish to add on such as travel insurance, transfers to and from the cruise port, airfare, shore excursions, cruisetours, hotel stays before or after the cruise, prepaid gratutities for your crew members, AND anything else you wish to add to the mix. Your price quote must include the components you want and need to make your vacation the success you deserve. Your travel professional can walk you through each step saving you time, money, and lots of aggravation. One size does not fit all and clicking the NEXT button on your computer is not a good way to choose your vacation options! Your travel professional can help you compare apples to apples so your next cruise is as tasty and fun as a fresh baked apple pie!

Sandy, the diva cruiser, is in reality, Sandy Wheeler, an outside agent for Connie George Travel Associates. Follow Sandy on Twitter @ladiestravel; and @thedivacruiser.

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To Each His Own!

2009-07-30T14:55:00.000-07:00

The best lobster I have ever eaten was onboard NCL’s Norwegian Crown on their first “formal” night of a 7 day cruise. It was so moist and tasty, I can still remember it. In fact, I ate two of those lobsters, that’s how good they were. That’s saying a lot since I am a seafood snob, having spent most of my life within an hour drive of the Atlantic Ocean. Another thing I remember about that cruise was floating around in the pool with two ladies who knew each other from New York City. They were discussing how poor the food was onboard and particularly how poor the lobster was. They commented on this Italian place in Manhattan, and a bistro in Soho, and on and on. I remember thinking at the time, “to each his own” and it’s never truer than on a cruise.

If you are that person who is only happy if running, jumping, sliding, or climbing over, around, or into something—there’s lots for you on a cruise, with plenty to do on shore excursions as well. If relaxing by the pool with a good book and a cold drink is your ideal situation—you can do that all week long if you choose. Love Broadway, comedians, live music, lectures, classes, art auctions? It’s all there. From salsa dance lessons in the morning to soaking in the hot tub in the afternoon, a cruise has something for everyone.

Birthdays and Bucket Lists

2009-07-18T18:49:00.000-07:00

This year marks a milestone for me-my son turns 30. We mothers celebrate every birthday of our children with tender memories and this one will be no different. This birthday has a lot of significance for two reasons. First, I can no longer lie about my age. Having a 30 year old son puts me out of my 40’s forever. Secondly, I remember vividly the year he was six and I was 30. It was at his birthday party that I finally decided I had to get help and find out what was wrong with me. I struggled badly to entertain my family and a few of his friends for the birthday bash, I was fatigued, constantly, and no amount of rest seemed to help for more than a few hours. There were times when I couldn’t stand I was so weak, and even breathing was labored. My job as a classroom teacher was in jeopardy; heck, my life was in jeopardy. I knew that day if I wanted to see another birthday party for my kids I had to find answers.

Many specialists, diagnoses, and 3 years later I had an answer. It was an incurable neuromuscular disease called myasthenia gravis. No cures, but lots of treatments existed and were available to me. It took another three years to pull myself out of the physical and emotional valley I was in. There were times I wasn’t sure I would make it, but I fought for reasons big and small. One thing that sustained me then and now is a deep faith. I was pretty sure God wasn’t done with me yet at 33 years of age. And the thought of not being there for my kids was something I was not going to accept. Birthdays, high school, weddings, and now looking toward those grandkids! One small but significant encouraging factor was my “dream trip” list, a bucket list if you will; of all the places I wanted to visit when (not if) I got well. I checked out every book on travel in the library twice, clipped magazine articles, searched through phone books, and scoured brochure racks. I was an armchair traveler extraordinary, even planning out itineraries for myself and my friends. Is it any wonder I became a travel agent? Now, I am doing great and still enjoy planning trips, particularly as girl’s getaway travel consultant for our agency.

I gave you the above background so you will know where I speak from when I say what an honor it is to work with two noted disability specialists, Connie George, and Vicki Thorpe. These two gals work tirelessly with the tiniest of details to make sure that people with disabilities have the chance to say “I can go too”. Ladies, I salute you for your dedication and experience and the opportunity you give everyone to fulfill their own travel bucket list.

Happy traveling,

Sandy

Sandy, the diva cruiser, is in reality Sandy Wheeler, the Chicks at Sea lady. Follow her adventures on Twitter @thedivacruiser, @ladiestravel, and www.ChicksAtSea.com.

Communication!! (Part One)

2009-07-11T10:18:00.000-07:00

It’s no surprise to my friends that I saw the new Star Trek movie twice within the same month and that I would see it again if I could find where it was still playing. Yes, I am a trekkie, my favorite being the Original TV series. In one of the episodes, the crew finds itself aggravated by a buzzing sound which is actually an alien race trying to communicate. Supposedly they move and speak so rapidly they can’t be understood or even perceived. The problem is solved, communication is achieved, and all is well.

I thought of the episode this week while spending all morning on the phone to Philadelphia and New York trying to arrange a girl’s getaway trip to NYC for some shopping and theatre and a BFF weekend for another group in the Caribbean. Since I speak “deep south” and these gals were speaking “high north”; the conversations bordered on hilarious. I would ask a question or make a statement and they would answer me accurately—but I didn’t get it. We were not communicating. I had to ask twice and then repeat it back to be sure I had the correct information. When I would answer their questions, I am pretty sure they were nodding off. Neither side was unskilled, being contrary, or lazy. Just a bit of a communication lag, patience won out and the trips are ready to book.

One of the joys of cruising is the ability to communicate with so many different people. People from all countries, nationalities, religions, dialects—it’s awesome. Every breakfast and lunch I head for the dining room and ask for a big table. There I have met a red-headed South African physician whose voice was like music it was so pretty; an Indian physicist teaching at MIT for a year; a couple from Mississippi who rode their Harley to Ft. Lauderdale to depart; a French waitress who called me “Madame”; a Canadian gentleman who led a good-natured argument with me on religion vs. education that the whole table of eight joined in on. Where else can you find this kind of diversity and fun?

I am closing this blog entry with a couple of my favorite sayings: YOU DESERVE A CRUISE and Cruise on my sisters Cruise on!

Ya’ll call me ya hear? (I couldn’t resist)

Sandy

Sandy Wheeler, aka the diva cruiser is in reality an independent contractor for Connie George Travel Associates. Follow us on Twitter @ladiestravel, @thedivacruiser, and @ChicksAtSea. I can be reached at 252-339-9614 or email me.

Menu Terms DeMystified: Part Two

2009-06-17T08:59:00.000-07:00

As you know from reading part I in this series, my husband and I are going on a cruise September 14-19, with a group of ladies called "Chicks At Sea". There's still time to join in, so please give me a call or email me if you would like to be a part of this fun group! This blog will feature additional French terms to make menus easier to understand and hopefully dining in a formal group setting more fun and relaxing!

Terms about how things are cooked:

A la Anglaise (ah lah AN glez) French for prepared in water or stock
Amandine (ah mahn DEEN) prepared with or often coated with almonds
Au gratin (oh GRAH tin) served with bread crumbs and/or cheese on top
Au jus (oh ZHOO) in its own natural juices
Au poivre (oh PWAHV ruh) French for with pepper
En croute (ahn KROOT) French for in a crust
Flambe (flam BAY) French for flamed
Provencale (proh VEHn SAHL) French, cooked with garlic, olive oil, and tomatoes
Saute (soh Tay) to cook in fat quickly

Remember as always, your waiter is ready to assist you in making your dining choices and will bring you anything on the menu to sample and experiment with. Second helpings are always available. Don't be afraid to ask questions of your dining companions either. People enjoy sharing knowledge, and it's a good conversation starter!

Cruise Menu Items Demystified-Chicks and Husbands at Sea!

2009-06-11T09:11:00.000-07:00

When my husband announced he wanted a cruise for his retirement gift in September, I smiled. As realization dawned across his face, we both began to laugh out loud. As he well knew, I have spent a great deal of time and energy getting ready for our September sailing of Chicks at Sea girls getaway cruise. I told him I would be happy to take him sailing with us on Chicks at Sea. His one stipulation was that I not embarrass him at dinner by letting it be known that he didn't know what the menu items were. He, like many people, doesn't know Coq au vin from Nestle's Coco, so I thought a series of articles on menu demystification might be in order.

Many of the menu item descriptions you will see at fine dining establishments and on a cruise ship menu are derived from French, Italian, Greek, Spanish, Thai, Indian, German and a multitude of other languages. Naturally, if you don't speak these languages, you like Marv, may lean over to your spouse and say: beef, chicken, pork? Let's start with French terms and start to simplify a bit.

Soup choices in French:

Bisque (BISK) French thick cream soup consisting of shellfish and spices
Bouillon (boo YON) clear broth
Consomme' (kahn soh MAY) clear, seasoned broth
Vichyssoise (vee shee SWAHZ) a cold cream, chicken stock, leek, and potato soup

Meats in French:

Beofu (BUHF) beef.
Chateaubriand (shah th bree AHn) French for a thick cut of grilled sirloin or Porterhouse steak served with vegetables and sauce
Filet mignon (fil LAY meen YAWN) French for a small, thick steak from the beef tenderloin.
Poisson (pwah SOHn) French for fish
Poulet (pooLAY) French for chicken
Saumon (soh MAHn) French for salmon
Veau (VOH) French for veal

and finally Viande (VYAHND) French for meat
and Escargots (es kahr GOH) French for snails. I didn't put it in the meat section, because, well it's snails.

Now foodies, this list is not for you, it's for the average person, so no negative comments! There are more French categories to explore, so look for the next installment soon. And, remember, the food will be just as tasty if you don't pronounce it perfectly! And, your waiters stand ready to assist you with your selection and will allow you to try any dish or dishes on the menu at no extra charge. A cruise is a wonderful place to try new things and spread your culinary wings a bit. Until our next installment, happy eating!

Sandy, the diva cruiser, is in reality, Sandy Wheeler, The Chicks at Sea lady, an independent contractor with Connie George Travel Associates. Email me with any questions or comments.

The ‘Bed and Breakfast Lady’ visits the Fuquay Varina Mineral Springs Inn and Gardens

2009-06-04T11:18:00.000-07:00

The perfect word to describe the Mineral Springs Inn at first sight was charming. Not too large, not too small, just perfect for a girl's getaway weekend or a quiet romantic weekend for two. Located on Main Street, directly across from the Mineral Springs Park, this Victorian home is on the National Historic Registry. With five gorgeous rooms, each with its own unique character, I had chosen the "Goldfinch Room". The online registration process was smooth and gave me a confirmation email I could print, always a comfort for those of us from the baby boomer generation. My first discovery on arrival was the charming gazebo tucked away with rockers and climbing roses. The shiny Smart Car parked next to the stone fireplace made me smile and left me thinking of questions for John and Patty, my Innkeepers. I glimpsed quiet garden seating and fountains ready to be explored. But all of these treasures would have to wait, as my first order of business was some quiet time.

My host, John Byrne, greeted me warmly in the best tradition of southern hospitality and I felt immediately comfortable. After showing me around the public areas of the inn downstairs, John brought in my luggage and showed me to my room. And of course, answered the most important question when visiting a b and b, when do you serve breakfast? John gave me a quick history of the room and some of the pieces of Victorian furniture and left me alone for a much needed nap. The Goldfinch room was a delight to the eyes, decorated in blues and yellows (my favorites) and of course a Goldfinch print in an antique frame. The attached bathroom was another treasure to explore later with interesting looking amenities and a step in glass enclosed shower.

Hunger woke me an hour later and I turned to the area guide in my room for my dining choices. There were several menus, complete with prices, and the decision was easy. A restaurant "just up the hill" named Cooley's had crabmeat stuffed flounder, a favorite and a deal maker. I dressed and went downstairs and asked John (and his visiting nearly twin brother) that I was thinking of Cooley's. When they assured me they were having dinner there later, I knew I had made the right decision.

Cooley's is a family enterprise and the owner greeted and brought me a glass of white wine personally We talked a bit about the fun and frustration of being a small business owner. I did order the crab stuffed flounder along with sweet potato and a garden salad. Raised near Calabash, NC I admit to being a seafood snob, but this meal could hold it's own in any of the eateries along Highway 17. One tip for ladies traveling together to Cooley's, you can easily split an entree' and add salads or desert. These are huge potions!

After a leisurely meal, I ambled back (if you haven’t ambled lately, try it--it’s delightful!) towards the inn and set about to explore the gardens and that gazebo I mentioned earlier. The gardens were integrated with fountains, intimate seating areas, birdhouses, and angel statues. Many of the plants and trees had informational plaques giving the name and other facts about the plant. An 80 year old magnolia graced the lawn on the side of the house, while herbs, annuals, perennials, trees, and decorative stone made the gardens a delight around every corner. I met Patty, the mistress of the garden, out digging, weeding, and watering. Patty is a 35 year retired educator, but she had definitely found a new calling creating a tranquil outdoor living area. I saved the gazebo for last and was glad I did. The rocking chair was perfect for my mood and the overhead ceiling fan made the area cool and peaceful sounding. The best sound, however, came from the birds in the trees overhead. The serenade was so perfect, I thought at first it was a CD of bird sounds. About dusk something happened that I had not seen in forever--fireflies starting popping all over the yard. It seemed a long time since I had slowed down enough to experience the calming peace of nature. Even as I enjoyed the solitude, I kept wishing my hubby were there or my best friends—what a time we could have had! Finally, there seemed nothing better to do than a hot shower and to curl up in the fluffy robe provided in my room with a good book and say goodnight.

Our breakfast was served on beautiful china and included fluffy scrambled eggs, thick cut bacon, deli baked blueberry bread, a croissant and cheese and an assortment of gourmet spreads. Our host, John, entertained us with a musical mystery CD and local and family folklore. This was a charming (excuse the second use of this word, but it just sums it up so well) addition to the usual ebb and flow of breakfast conversation. Our innkeepers went out of their way to make our stay warm--you went away feeling they really loved what they were doing!

After a quick stop for photos at the Mineral Springs Park, I was on my way home. The water from the spring has been reported for centuries to be a cure for whatever ails you. Individuals traveled long distances to "take the waters". To my untrained eye, it looked like a pretty spring with nothing special to see. But just to be on the safe side, I took my shoes off and dangled my toes and hands for a moment or two. Who knows, Maybe I do feel better!

Thanks for reading my report and email me for more information about an idea you have for a girl’s getaway weekend or ladies cruise.

The B and B Lady

Sandy Wheeler, aka the diva cruiser, takes on a new role as the b and b lady. Sandy is always willing to go the extra mile to find fun and relaxing getaway travel for the girls! For more information about our Chicks at Sea ladies cruise, please visit www.ChicksAtSea.com.

Hijinks, Hissy Fits, and Hysteria

2009-05-02T19:11:00.000-07:00

Way back in the day in my lbtc (life before travel consultant), I taught high school for a number of years and was the sponsor for a student vocational organization that taught business skills and leadership. Our group was very good and we frequently won our tests and competitions at the regional, state, and even national level. I was young and foolish and would take a bus full of students to competitions--that was back when I could get by with only two hours sleep in a period from Thursday morning until Sunday afternoon. Now granted I stacked the deck in my favor by choosing only the brightest and best behaved students, but still it was not without it's problems.

The first category of problem is what I call hijinks, kids being kids, having silly but harmless fun. For example, we were all having dinner in the mall (or so I thought). One kid runs up and says, "come here Mrs. Nye, you have got to see this, hurry!". I took off running expecting to see blood, or at least guts. There sat one of our group in the middle of a store, playing the piano! Since no one was complaining (he played pretty darn well for a teenager) I laughed. I even let him keep the tips he made.

The second group of offense called for me to have a hissy fit. Now for those not familiar with that statement: it's when an adult finds out, lots of yelling occurs, and punishment is doled out accordingly. Had a couple of noteworthy fissy fits--once I caught some of the gals sneaking a smoke in their room and another time some of the boys (my own son included I am pretty sure) thought it would be oh so cool to write their name on their room wall with cheese-whiz and crackers. They all know who they are, so no names will be offered.

The third thing--hysteria--only happened once, when a student fell on the escalator and she and I went by ambulance to the ER in a strange town. I had to get hold of myself because the student needed me. That brings me to my point about hysteria.

I think the news media has done a pretty good job stirring up hysteria about the swine flu. Pictures of poor folks with face masks appear on every broadcast. But is this a situation where hysteria is necessary?

Let's look at the numbers. If you do research yourself, rather than allowing those face masks to scare you, you will realize that more people die each year of the regular flu and diabetes than have died of swine flu. And, we have medications for both. That's not to say I am not being careful. I am washing my hands a lot more and watching out for crowds and people who appear to be sick. But I do that anyway, don't you?

I’ve heard from a few clients who are concerned about visits to Mexico that are scheduled for their cruises for two months from now or even six months from now. The answer I give is simple. First, this too shall pass. It’s likely that this will be over in the next few months. Secondly, the cruise lines have no interest in putting their guests nor their crew in danger. We’ve seen the cruise lines change their itineraries for the next month as they take a “let’s wait and see” approach to decisions in the further future. Trust that they have everyone’s safety in mind and that the news media’s job is to keep your attention.

Don't let hysteria ruin the fun of anticipating your cruise!

Women Traveling Alone or With Other Women

2009-04-18T15:40:00.000-07:00

Women Traveling with Other Women or ???Alone????

My hubby and I were having lunch at an awesome deli in town, Pineapple Cafe, during a busy time last week. The tables were pushed very close and seated just behind me were two obviously professional women who were discussing their business travels among other things. Honestly, I tried not to hear. Finally one lady said, "You know the really nice spa on Glenwood Avenue, what's it called"? I turned around (I couldn't help it) and said, it's the Umstead. She squealed "Right, the Umstead!" I knew how wonderful the property was because my daughter and son n law spent the first night of their honeymoon there. I had used the almost sinful beauty products my daughter brought home. I have the place on my to do list for certain.

Seeing these ladies made me think about safety and my duties as your ladies travel coordinator. Traveling alone for business or for fun has some serious implications these days. Having experienced violence in my own family, I know that problems can happen anywhere and at anytime.

My first advise to lady travelers is: don't do anything away from home that you wouldn't do at home and then err just a bit more on the side of safety. When at a club, dance, or party I don't get drunk and dance barefooted on the table. Don't at home, don't on the road. A couple of drinks, a few dances with my hubby or close friends and I am perfect. However, let me give you a more concrete example. Last summer I had to travel alone for business and made a reservation at a Hampton Inn in Morehead City. When the reservationist answered the phone (thankfully a woman) I asked point blank about the configuration of the rooms since I was traveling alone on business. I had already checked the hotel out online, looking for recommendations from other women business travelers and it passed the test with flying colors. I highly recommend this practice. The reservationist said she had many women travelers and actually had a hall on the first floor that was very visible from the front desk.

Later that evening I walked across the courtyard to a restaurant and had awesome shrimp and grits while indulging myself on a mystery thriller. There was a band playing in the bar area. I love live music with a passion and wanted to get closer to see and hear, but all the seats available were at the bar. Had I been at home with my girlfriends that I know have my back, yep, we would have sat there. But common sense told me a single woman sitting at the bar in a strange place could be a problem. So I opted on the conservative side and switched my seat to the other side of the table and just listened from the restaurant.

'What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas' may be a cute saying and may work for some travelers. But for a women traveling alone, if you wouldn't do it at home--maybe you shouldn't do it while away from home either.

Email me for more questions about ladies travel or to tell me about any spa experience you have encountered.

Happy travels,

Sandy, the diva cruiser

Pre-Paid Gratuities? Huh?

2009-03-18T09:24:00.000-07:00

One of the more frequent questions I hear, especially from first time cruisers, is about prepaid gratuities. Let's explore this topic a bit and hopefully clear up some miscommunication.

First of all, a gratuity or tip is an extra monetary amount paid to anyone who provides a service, such as a waiter, porter, or barber. We all tip everyday, knowing that often the tip constitutes a good portion of the individuals pay. On a cruise ship, you will be served and served well by a number of staff-the waiters in the dining room, your cabin steward, a virtual army of folks there to keep you happy, healthy, and having the time of your life. Notice I used the term "served well". I can do that with confidence since the service on a cruise ship is second to none. Now let's talk a moment about how to reward these service providers; or as I call it Tips for Tipping.

Every cruise line I have worked with or traveled with handles the idea of tipping just a bit differently. One added the gratuities to our cabin account which was taken from our credit card automatically. Another line offers envelopes for cash tips in your room so you can hand the waiter or steward their tip yourself. Another had a box at guest services that you placed either a voucher allowing them to take the tips from your credit card or to place cash tips in. You can also give additional tips for excellent service received to an individual server. Confused yet?

The actual amount of tips can vary from line to line as well. The average right now seems to be approximately $10 per person per day. The ship divides this $10 into portions for your waiter, steward, and other service providers. So a 7 day cruise would cost you $70 in tips and gratuities per person.

Now, finally, we get to the question: what are prepaid gratuities and how does this help me? When I price a trip for a client or myself, I like to choose to prepay gratuities. Simply put it means paying your tips ahead as part of your initial deposit or final payment. Doing this does a couple of things I like. First of all it frees you from having to have cash on board. After all, one of the great things about cruising is the ability to put everything on your ship account, no worries about having to carry cash. One less thing to worry about, besides your bathing suit has no pockets right? Secondly, if you are prepaying, it's one less expense you need to worry about after your cruise. Booking early and prepaying as much as possible will give you a much smaller bill to deal with when you return home refreshed and ready to book your next cruise.

Until next time, keep those questions coming. If you need further info, feel free to email me.

the diva cruiser, is in reality, Sandy Wheeler. You may reach her at 252-339-9614 or visit www.ChicksatSea.com

Follow Up To My Last BLog--Stains on My Clothes While Cruising

2009-02-17T12:23:00.000-08:00

I received two emails with questions as followups to my lastest article. One was “if I do as you say and only take one dressy dress for both formal cruise nights, what happens if I spill something on my dress the first night?” signed Messy Mendy from Virginia.
Well Mendy there are several ways you can handle this and still look sharp in the dining room on that second formal night. If it is a fabric that can be washed and the stain is relatively small I would use one of the strain treating sticks or cloths available on the market today. If that doesn’t take out the stain, then use those single use packets of regular clothes detergent–just wash your dress out in the sink and hang on a hanger in the bathroom to dry. Both of these are inexpensive and take up almost no room in your suitcase. While you are out enjoying your shore excursion your dress will dry and all will be well. I have done this several times with good results. Of course, the divacruiser knows to choose dresses in fabrics that are easy to pack and easy to spot clean if necessary!
If the stain is more extensive, the fabric is not washable, or requires ironing , the ship does have laundry services. Tell your cabin steward that you have an item to be dry cleaned or laundered and it will be back in your room spic and span before you know it. The cost of the drycleaning or laundering will be added to your ship’s account. Some larger ships have a self service laundry with machines that are paid for using your ship account. Personally, I try to avoid work of any kind while on board (except Pilates classes or rumba lessons).
Thanks for your question. It is my pleasure to help. Other questions can be sent to the divacruiser, aka cruise chick by clicking here.

the divacruiser, aka the cruise chick, is really Sandy Wheeler, Independent Contractor for Connie George Travel Associates, which sponsors the ladies cruise Chicks at Sea. See more information at: www.ChicksAtSea.com.

What Clothes Do I Need to Buy to Take on a Cruise?

2009-02-03T19:23:00.001-08:00

Many ladies, especially first time cruisers, ask me "what clothes do I need to buy to go on my cruise". The answer is pretty easy--probably nothing! If you have a bathing suit, flip flops, sneakers, casual attire such as shorts, tee shirts, capris, a couple of party or church dresses, a pair of dress shoes, a couple of dress pantsuits, and a change or two of costume jewelry may be all you need. Yes, you do see photographs in the brochure of ladies in evening gowns and gentlemen in tuxedos; and yes, if you have these things and want to certainly take them. But to go out and purchase an evening gown or cocktail dress isn't necessary. Here are a few ways to find the clothing you need or want to take on a cruise.

Shop in your own closet. Root around and look for little worn items, things still in the bag you have forgotten about, or out of season items that may be perfect for your vacation. Often I am pleasantly surprised at the things that I have forgotten about that are there in the back of my closet.
Borrow from a friend. When I ran out of time and money after buying several new outfits for my daughter's wedding, I asked a friend to lend me a beaded purse. Since I knew she probably had several (and she did) I was able to find one that was just perfect and got compliments on how beautiful it was as I carried it down the aisle.
Shop your local thrift stores. Some of the outfits I take regularly with me on cruises came from thrift stores. Things that are gorgeous and perfect for dressing up for the dining room may only cost a few dollars at the second hand shops. I recently found a very expensive cotton sweater with beaded palm trees, flamingos, sunglasses, etc. Would I have paid the $100 this sweater cost new? No, but I sure will enjoy wearing it for the $5.95 I paid for it.
Mix and match. I bring only one pair of dress shoes and wear them on both formal nights. Same with earrings and other jewelry. I bring two dresses that will coordinate with one pair of shoes and one set of jewelry. Better still, bring only one dress--who will remember?

One thing you will need to buy if you don't have it is a sun hat. The sun in the Caribbean is stronger and different than even a girl who grew up with Myrtle Beach in her backyard could take, so be sure to bring a hat. I did buy a good crushable one with a chin strap after having one blow away in Bermuda.

Hope this helps! Email me if you have specific questions about clothes to take on your cruise.

Divacruiser is really Sandy Wheeler, Independent Agent, for Connie George Travel Associates, who sponsors Chicks at Sea ladies cruises. See www.ChicksAtSea.com for more.

Cruising with The Ladies: Tips for Moms!

2009-01-21T18:07:00.000-08:00

As ladies travel coordinator for our group, Chicks at Sea, I often find women who would love to cruise with a group of ladies, but don't feel they can take the time or the money away from the family. Women tend to put themselves last and sometimes feel a bit the martyr, often unnecessarily. While they will work hard to make it easy to send Johnny to camp, or do double duty to help hubby hit the links on a golfing get away, women feel funny taking vacation time for themselves. Well you shouldn't! No one needs and can probably benefit as much from a few days of r and r in the company of other like minded women. Here I have presented a short list of items that just might help you get the children (and dad) ready for our next cruise adventure!

Don't let your trip come as a surprise to your children. Depending on their ages, tell the kids in a timely manner so they become comfortable with the idea of your leaving. Use maps and pictures of the places you will visit and print out the deck plan of your ship and mark your cabin. Perhaps your kids can put together a scrapbook of these items which you can add to when you return.
Prepare and leave a list available of the children's doctor, dentist, and pharmacist, with names, phone numbers, and addresses, including directions if dad has never been. Be sure to leave a list of medications and details for administration. Take a copy with you in your bag, just in case!
Stock the pantry shelves with supplies for easy to make meals (along with directions), put a few homemade frozen dinners in the freezer, and leave convenient coupons for "acceptable" fast food choices to make things simple for dad.
Lower your housekeeping expectations for the period before, during, and after your trip for a little while to reduce the stress for yourself and your spouse.
Put together a color-coded master schedule using a dry erase calendar or other calendar with large write-in spaces. List all the kids activities including times, addresses, and if any gear, shoes, or snacks are needed for the event. Also list who is going to drive the carpool if appropriate. Leave contact phone numbers for carpools and activities.
Put together a tote bag or gym bag for the activities on the master schedule. For example, if Tuesday Sally has ballet, put her needed items in a bag and label clearly "Sally-Ballet-Tuesday-4:00) Make sure dad knows where all the activity bags are!
Have dad make notes while you are away of suggestions for the next time you travel. If age appropriate, have the kids make notes as well. Their perspective of how things went could be invaluable for your next trip!
Relax and have fun! Everything is going to be fine at home!

Sandy the Diva Cruiser is actually Sandy Wheeler, Independent Contractor, in association with Connie George Travel Associates. See our website: www.ChicksAtSea.com for more information about our ladies cruise.