When I Grow Up I Want to be a Golden Girl!

I am really going to miss Blanche Devereaux.  I’m going to miss Rue McClannahan, too, She was a beautiful woman with a lot of talent.  But Blanche, well Blanche was my heroine.  A smart, sassy, stylish, sexy woman who loved life, her friends, and yes—she loved the men!  As a Southern woman trying to be any or all of these, Blanche was a true Southern belle and one of my favorite TV characters of all times.  Not since the likes of red-headed Flo from Mel’s Diner has a Southern woman captivated our ideas of what a strength and beauty in one package should be.  Although Blanche never had a catch phrase to rally behind like Flo’s “Eat My Grits”, she had plenty of identifying characteristics that made me like her.

• Blanche fought against aging with every fiber of her being.  She wanted to be young in body, mind, and spirit and often tried out new sports, activities, and ideas.  She knew staying young was an inside job.

• Blanche had a signature sense of style in her clothing and accessories.  She dressed well to please the latest fellow in her life, but to also please herself.  She seemed comfortable in her clothes and confident about her looks.

• Blanche loved her gal pals and went to them for advice, comfort, and a sense of family.  Sometimes it looked like she might sell them short to please a new guy, but in the end she always came through for her roommates and girlfriends.

• Blanche had a career she loved and appreciated.  She volunteered to help the less fortunate and benefitted from a full, well rounded life.

Yes, I am going to miss dear Blanche.  Fortunately for us, the Golden Girls seem to always be in season on Lifetime TV.  Her antics will always be fresh for the next generation of Southern girls looking for a heroine.

Fiddle de dee,  Sandy    

Sex and the City 2--Samantha Didn't Get Her Due!

Of the 4 gals on Sex and the City the one that I identify with least is Samantha.  She is the one I probably laugh at the most, I wonder what she is going to do next, but with my beliefs, upbringing, and personality, I just don’t see myself in her.  One thing I do admire about her is her commitment to her business and ability to rise to the top of her profession, while still “having a life”.  The reason for the ill-fated (and expensive) trip to Abu Dhabi was the Arab businessman who had observed her success as a public relations executive and was eager for her input on his upcoming projects. Eager enough to give in to her request that the “girls” go too and to spare no expense to impress her, he treated her as a business force to be reckoned with. I think the movie did the character of Samantha a real disservice and here’s why.

Ms. Samantha Jones, New York City PR maven, would never travel to a country and culture uninformed.  This was the start of what could be an extremely lucrative deal; and as much as Samantha loved a good looking man, she also enjoyed money, respect, and power in her chosen profession.  No intelligent person traveling to another part of the world for the first time would arrive so blindly unaware of what was required in terms of conduct and behavior.   Even in a menopause induced frenzy (been there, felt that) she knew better than to create the kind of dangerous situation she involved herself and her best friends in.

Didn’t she have a travel professional for her business and personal travel?  She has the best of everything else money and power can buy, who makes her travel plans?  Could I volunteer?  Had I been her travel advisor, I would have made sure she knew the rules of behavior, particularly between men and women in public.  Knowing Samantha, I would have been very firm with her—she does love her men!

No, the movie didn’t give Samantha credit.  For all her free-wheeling ways, she was still super intelligent and uber successful.  And yes, I know it’s just a chick flick, never meant to make a statement or be taken too seriously.  But, the business woman, 50 something, travel advisor in me couldn’t help but notice.  Maybe next time I can play the part of the intelligent, elegant, but fun loving side kick!  Show biz here I come!

Happy travels, Sandy

Sandy, the diva cruiser, is actually Sandy Wheeler, outside travel professional for Connie George Travel Associates.  Follow her adventures on Twitter @thedivacruiser and on her website www.SandyWheelerTravel.com.  Email Sandy for comments, questions, or just to say hello.   

Reading Labels Can Save You Money!

Label reading has become a passion of mine while trying to eat more healthy food, lose weight, and keep my blood sugar under control.  It's amazing the things you can learn about processed foods, they almost all contain too many chemicals, too much salt, and too many carbs.  A real reality check--if you haven't started reading labels, I recommend you do it, you will be surprised!

These however, are not the labels this blog is about.  Recently, I took a gander at the ingredients list of my cosmetics line.  It's a great line and I enjoy using it BUT the ingredients list on my toner said "witch hazel".  Witch hazel was the only active ingredient.  Everything else was inactive--fragrance, etc. I say again, the only active ingredient was witch hazel!  Worse than that, I was paying $39.50 for witch hazel!  Good smelling witch hazel; in a pretty bottle; but none the less, plain witch hazel.  Geez!

I immediately hit the web and found that witch hazel was an active ingredient in several toners, some costly, some not.  I then went to my local Walgreens and looked at the witch hazel selections.  The kind I chose was Dickinsons.  It cost me $5.95 for a net savings of $33.85 per bottle.  As I probably use 3-4 bottles a year--well we are looking in a savings in at least $100 a year! WOW!

Now I am known for being an advocate for women pampering themselves.  In fact, I insist on it.  But, there's a difference between pampering ourselves with a superior products and spending money for no good reason.  Go into your cosmetics storage area right now.  Examine the labels and do some research.  Throw away any items that are over the expiration date; particularly eye items like mascara and shadows which can harbor germs.  See if you, like me, are overpaying on any items.

Need a suggestion for the extra money you can save?  How about using that extra as your downpayment for our October, 2010 Chicks at Sea ladies cruise?  Visit my web site or email me for more information.

Now go read some labels!

All the best! Sandy

Sandy, the diva cruiser, is actually Sandy Wheeler an independent contractor for Connie George Travel Associates.  Follow her adventures on Twitter @thedivacruiser and on her website www.SandyWheelerTravel.com.  Email me for more information about our Chicks at Sea ladies cruise. 

My Visit to the Sanderling Resort and Spa,Outer Banks, NC ! Part I

WOW! was my first thought when I  entered the "lobby" of the Sanderling on the sunny but cold (40-50) Friday in February.  I had driven by the Sanderling for almost ten years on my way to Corolla, putting it on my to do list every time.  When a group of gals requested information about a long weekend get away there, I decided to was time to make my way to the Outer Banks for an explore.  Now back to the wow! 

I was greeted by a two story staircase that led up to a large seating area complete with couches, chairs, bookcases, fireplace, and two different glorious views.  The Sanderling property is fourteen acres uniquely situated on both sides of Highway 12 with some of the buildings having views of the Currituck Sound and the others looking out onto the ocean.  The registration desk is tucked into the right corner of the lobby so as not to detract from the beautiful symetry of the staircase.  After checking in, I immediately hit one of the porch rocking chairs overlooking the sound--short but sweet--as I was reminded by the nip in the wind it was still February.  I was disappointed that I was not offered concierge services, although there was a sign that said they were available.  As a woman traveling alone (my husband came in that evening), I was in need of help with my bag and laptop case. 

But let's move on, I have a massage to get to!  The North property is perfect for a girls' getaway weekend, with 2 queen beds in each room, so I chose that room type to get the look and feel for my recommendation.  The room was decorated in what I would call "beach chic" with cool and comforting furnishings and linens,  and sea shells, lots of sea shells!.  The private bathroom was well suited for women too--I was instantly in love with the glass enclosed shower.  My hubby has no clue why I was so impressed, but girls you know.  The towels where thick and thirsty and there were two great robes in the closet ready for a cozy evening.  The vanity and mirror were large enough for two women getting on their makeup and doing hair, but two sinks would have been an even better idea.  The certified organic soap, shampoo, and other toiletries were just one more piece of the feel good experience. 

The dresser seemed adequate for two ladies clothing and doubled as the TV table.  The middle section of the bureau held a small frig and room safe.  We need to feel our baubles are going to be safe while we are  walking the beach or dancing the night away right?  The best thing about the room was the deck or porch depending on the floor you were on,  complete with wicker chairs and a built in bench for talking with friends or just communing with the sounds of the beach.  The room we had directly faced a gorgeous looking and sounding waterfall.  There is no more pleasant sound to me than trickling water--I spent some really quieting and restful time there sipping hot tea and listening to the waterfall.  Unfortunately, the North Inn is not handicapped accessible.  While the steps have more than adequate handrails and a good spacing between the steps, (I was fine since this was a "good day" with my silent handicap) the steps were there  making this girl friendly, less expensive part of the property not accessible by people with problems climbing stairs or wheelers. 

We totally enjoyed a small seating area two doors down from our room that shared the gorgeous view of the waterfall, complete with comfortable seating and a fireplace.  Hubby and I sat and propped our feet up near the fire and nibbled complimentary gourmet cookies--I can totally see this property as a honeymoon spot too!  Besdie this cozy couch was a dining table and chairs--great for a snack or family conference.  At one point I did find this area taken over by the maids/waitresses ? for a meal and what appeared to be a break time.  Somehow this was a bit disappointing,  was there not an adequate space for break or dining for the staff?  My husband says I am too picky, maybe so--just reporting my findings, dear readers. 

Soon it was time for my massage.  See the lengths I go to for you my readers?  I'm really taking one for the team here girls.  The Sanderling Spa was across the street on the Sound side and I couldn't wait for the pampering to being!  That ends this installment; check back soon for the rest of the story. 

Gals remember you need to "Relax, Restore, and Realize Your Worth".

And another old adage "If Momma Ain't Happy, Nobody's Happy"

Love you, Sandy

Sandy, the diva cruiser, is in reality Sandy Wheeler, Independent Agent for Connie George Travel Associates.  Follow Sandy's adventures on Twitter @thedivacruiser and on her web site www.SandyWheelerTravel.com.   Email Sandy for more information about this or any other of my blog entries! 

The Gentle Art of Listening

Although my blog is technically about women’s travel opportunities, I also like from time to time to comment, ask questions, or make observations that might be beneficial to other women. Some of these observations are common sense that we just need to be reminded of from time to time—travel safety tips for example. Other things I share with my readers are about lessons learned or even grey hairs earned. And these are the blogs that seem to generate the most emails and comments, many of them off the record. For example, I was gratified that my blogs about weight issues during the holidays prompted many of you to write and share your struggles with me. So, with this in mind, here goes a little blog about an important issue; learning to listen.


When a friend confides in me, I consider it an honor and a blessing. I think women are a powerful force, more powerful than we imagine. The sharing of a confidence or concern is something that women do for other women that is so different from sharing with a man; no matter how loving or well intentioned. As I age, I am learning that the art of true listening is a skill I am developing after having done it the wrong way. It’s taking time, and I still don’t have all the answers, but here goes a few things I have learned.

I have always wanted to be supportive of people. But until recently if you tried to share a problem with me, I would listen attentively for a few moments, get the big picture of things and then jump right in—talking, talking, talking. I would immediately offer well intended advice and a plan for correcting the situation if MY ideas and action plan are followed. And often I would blow it with the friend trying to express herself. I want to “fix” things, it’s what I do, but not very helpful at all in a listening situation. Maybe it was my ego, I like to believe not—but everyone loves to hear the sound of their own voice, hey? I really did want to help and I certainly didn’t want to come across as bossy. So what IS good listening?


Most people just want your undivided attention when sharing with you. Making eye contact, a hug if appropriate, and active listening—really getting involved with what they are telling you. No recriminations or judgment during this time either. My favorite saying when a friend begins to chastise herself for a mistake is: “stop talking about my friend that way”. Just that bit of humor dispels the idea that you might be judging. I make soothing noises like “aw”, but I think the main point is stay engaged, continue with eye contact and provide a safe haven for your friend. A safe haven is a priceless gift you can give and by learning the art of gentle listening you will have made a difference to someone in a huge way. And chances are when your time comes to need counsel, she will be there for you too.  Listening is a skill that we may not have been born with, but it can be developed over time.  Good luck with your journey!

Have fun and be sure to visit our webpage.  We have a great new New Orleans escorted tour ready to book!  Email me at sandy@cgta.com to talk about this blog or to ask questions about our upcoming trips!

Sandy, the Diva Cruiser, is actually Sandy Wheeler,Indpendent contractor with Connie George Travel Associates.  Follow her adventures on Twitter @thedivacruiser or through her website http://www.sandywheelertravel.com/ 

The World is Shrinking, So Why Won't My Waist?

I just finished reading Rhys Bowen's latest book called Royal Flush. The herionine, Georgie, is a relative of the "royals" and is at the castle when the Royal Grouse Hunt is being held. As an aside to the event, a group of the locals volunteer to take a group of haughty American visitors on a "haggis hunt". Since haggis is a Scottish sausage concotion and not an animal to be hunted--well you get the point.

Reading this reminded me of an old Southern tradtion called the "snipe hunt". Good ole boy locals would take visitors out at night hunting for snipes with some interesting results. And if by chance the visitors were haughty; then they were taken to an especially thick part of the woods and left till morning. Strangely enough, no one has ever bagged a snipe in the woods. (They are actually shore birds.) Go figure.

The world is different now. Myths like the snipe hunt are easily debunked by just
Googling the words "snipe hunt". There's even a Wikipedia entry for it. Easy access to information about other cultures, peoples, and places to visit are at our fingertips. New and exciting venues have recently developed into the "it" spots to visit. Costa Rica has become one such place, and the requests for Costa Rican womens' adventures have been coming in.

So, tada! We are offering a ladies only trip for November 2010. A 9 day, 8 night adventure in Costa Rica including the following sites and activities: a visit to the Poás Volcano, a cooking class, yoga on the beach, a painting lesson with the local artists community, a boat ride on Lake Gold, the Museum and National Theater in San José, Monteverde Cloud Forest and Orchid Garden, Tortuga Island Excursion & Snorkeling, and much more. Plenty of exercise, activities, and unique opportunities to see culture, art, peoples, and places that give you a profound experience of development as a woman. All in the company of exceptional women just like yourself! Here's the link to this great trip http://www.sandywheelertravel.com/id14.html.

Yes, our world may be shrinking, but you don't have to shrink with it. Decide instead to grow and join us on this super adventure!

And remember, don't go hunting after dark!

Sandy, the diva cruiser, is actually Sandy Wheeler, Independent Travel Consultant for Connie George Travel Associates. Follow her adventures on Twitter @thedivacruiser.

Email Sandy to ask questions about any of our great trips and check out www.SandyWheelerTravel.com for more information about our escorted tour to Costa Rica!.